How is he supposed to help himself if he doesn't want to?

how are we supposed to help him if he wont help himself



everyone send OP 100k so he can continue this life for 40 years

if this post is real....

you really have to worry about yourself first. **** the girlfriend thoughts. though a gf can help your life immensely in many areas, you need to try to get out of this depression first. phil galfond had a really good post in doorbread's thread-

http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/sh...&postcount=143

i think you can relate to some of what he says.

baby steps first. go outside for a walk one day. evolve that into going for a jog. find a hobby, branch out your friend network, help yourself- and then find a girlfriend.

gl

Honestly, I don't know.

I want to change, be happy, confident, etc. but I feel my subconscious won't let me make these changes or something. Don't really now how to explain it.
And it's this way of thinking/being i need (your) help getting out off.

I'm all for leaving the house, but there's no one to talk to as I see it. The most words I utter is "hi" and "thanks" to the cashier in the grocery store.

i can kind of relate as i did this for a period of about a year. I was out of shape and chunky (fat for me) about 30-40 lbs over weight. Sadly, I was told by my dad, brothers, to get the **** up and excercise and work and it made no difference.

I played sports in high school so I was never out of shape and I worked since I was 14, but poker was bringing in enough money to do all right so I sat around and drank and played poker all the time. Even though my family got on my ass It made no difference. You're going to get out of this by making this decision on your own man.

Not to say it cant happen very soon, but theres a motivation that has to click in your head that says, "im gonna get the **** up off the couch, put on some running clothes and go jog til i cant anymore". Nobody can force you to do that. If anybodys wisdom did make a difference to you, id say starting with that is what you'd need to do for a few weeks. You'll slowly start feeling better and have more energy. Then, go get a job. Anything for at least 20 hours a week. Where you actually have to have some responsibility. Things will quickly start to turn around and you can build on that.

Just remember, one day at a time.

also, orange is correct. Dont ****ing worry about some girlfriend right now. Dont even think about it, its depressing. Just know that once you get the ball rolling positive things will happen to you and one of those things could eventually be a girl in your life.

This post is sadly enough, real. I've been putting of typing up something like this for about a year hoping things would magically sort themselves out, sadly they haven't.

I'm all for finding a hobby, but every time I think about it I just space out, start thinking of how I'm just tricking myself into liking/doing something that's totally worthless and has no real meaning in life.

But perhaps that's the point, to make yourself like something?

I have a lot of thoughts running around in my head, and feel free to call me out on stuff I write that you dont agree with.

I'll read the post you linked.

That's what your "conscious" is for, to slap that bitch-ass sub back into place.

orange beat me to it. this is really good stuff.

op, can you tell us what your diet consists of at the moment? what are your sleep patterns like right now? when you say you can't bring yourself to do things that you should do, does this mean if someone suggested doing ten pushups at the end of an hour, ten body squats at the end of the next, ten jumping jacks at the end of the next, etc. you wouldn't even attempt it? i feel like if you start doing little things in increments throughout the day you'll feel better, gain a little confidence, and take the next steps towards improving yourself (getting a haircut, buying clothes for interviewing for jobs, applying for jobs, etc.).

get a notebook and a pen. at the end of every day, write down three things that made you happy on that day. it doesn't matter what they were or how insignificant they are the grand scheme of things; if something brought joy to you in some way, document it. get a separate notebook, or just use your computer to write out how you came to be the person you are right now. if there are traumatic events in your life that led up to you winding up in this position, write them out. you don't have to share it with anyone, just write it like you're writing a book about yourself.

don't worry about a girlfriend right now. romantic interactions will come in time, but they aren't a priority just yet. you can't love someone else in a meaningful, healthy way until you love yourself, so your goal right now should be getting to a point where you're comfortable in your own skin and happy to get out of bed each morning.

Happiness requires some effort.

Sitting in a room for 20 hours a day would make anyone in the world go crazy. Take baby steps into exercising a bit and getting a job even if its $8/hour.

Seek some help maybe.

Solution is simple. Start with a modest exercise routine and a part time job. You should be able to build from there.

Wake up before 9am every day

Hmmm, poker players giving life advice? The good players are all smart doods, yes..but still..c'mon man
POst this stuff on your local craigslist in the male seeking female section..buy some weed, and wait...thats all you need bro...theres a f-ed up chick out there that needs a f-ed up dood..really
Maybe some sweet pretty helpfull theraputic type chick will call..who knows..but put your biz up locally man..you just need a f-in friend..just post real sht so you get someone worth meeting, ya know? either youll get somebody that'll elighten you and lift you, or youll get a basket case in which youll have a friend to spend time with...and the pot? well, that always works..take 7 huge puffs, call me after your pizza...

OP could always get into drugs...And then get into recovery.

I don't recommend this though. Will be fun for a while, but...

google up Real Social Dynamics.



thank me later, I know you will