Okay so i broke up with my girlfriend of over 4.5 years in december.
you can read the thread i made about it here
We have been on good terms since and have hooked up on two occasions, not including the 'breakup' sex we had new years day after a few drinks.
the first time she gave me oral(maybe 5 weeks ago), second time she said she didnt feel it was right to have sex at the time after making out for a while and resisting my advances, a bit over 2 weeks ago. I told her i had to even up thigns with her because she gave me head and i didnt give her head.
she said she'd call me up on that some time in the future.
when we first broke up she told me to just "not hook up with people in our community."
i said okay thats fine i dont want you doing the same thing
so on friday we are chatting on the phone and she says i might have to call you up this saturday night, because we were going out for my friends 21st, and i said no sorry just not this weekend i dont want to do anything while on any sort of drugs. it might not turn out well. (okay yes i planned on doing some drugs, which i did but not a lot)
The real reason i said no i didnt want to was because i had been seeing another girl casually a few times who had since gone down on me as well. no sex. I didnt want to have sex with my Ex without her knowing id been with someone else. I wouldnt feel right about her not knowing.
come saturday night we are chatting about stuff and i tell her ive been with this girl, she tells me she was with this guy who slept over at her house, naked, but after foreplay(no oral) was not interested.
i said okay thats fine do what you want i dont know the guy. Just dont hook up with "Person X" because he is my friend and i know the two of you have been chatting here and there.
(please note person X does get around a little bit)
eventually she starts getting really defensive about how because i was the one who was so adament about breaking up(which is mostly true since) i have no right to tell her not to hook up with person X Y or Z.
i tell her its a matter of respect to me and what we shared and still share(friendship) that you dont hookup with a friend of mine who i see and happen to hangout with on occasion.
she simply refuses to acknowledge this and i leave her sitting on the curb where we had taken our discussion to go back to the party.
i sought out Person X and asked him not to hook up with her. he said he wouldnt.
later on in the night once we are at the club i find the two of them sharing a cigarette and join them for a chat. Person X promptly leaves and i ask her did u hook up with him?
she says its none of my business. I told her i knew she did.
Im pretty upset at both of them right now and particularly HER for showing me absolutely no respect whatsever. Am i allowed to feel this way and More importantly am i allowed to ask her to not hook up with Person X?