I don't. I like your SN. That is one thing that pops out at me about certain people. Like another 2+2er PMed me and although I had been gone for almost four years due to illness, I immediately remembered his SN.

I guess if you have nothing to hide there is no reason to worry about it. If it bothers you, change it. I remember one time Mat changed mine to Felicia. Everyone hated it and asked me to change it back. I started using FeliciaLee (first and middle name) when I got on the Internet back in 94 since Felicia was almost always taken wherever I went. Natch on 2+2 back then we only had 2000 members and hardly any women, so I could have used Felicia, but it never crossed my mind. Same thing with online poker. If I try a new, more anonymous nickname no one likes it.

But then again, my life is like an open book. Heck, I even posted my mastectomy pic one time in the middle of OOT or NVG and got a whole bunch of the kiddies throwing up in their mouths a little

I only left it up for 10 minutes but you should have seen the response! That is why I don't get the "pics or GTFO" much anymore. No one really wants to see that!

So I guess you have something to think about. Don't post stuff you would be embarrassed for your parents to read and you won't have to worry about your nickname being public knowledge.

I used my username as advertising space. TallHandsomeNerd is what I go by. I figured if I self-deprecate by calling myself a nerd it will soften the cockiness of labeling myself tall and handsome. In retrospect I don't think it was favorable to rep myself as a nerd.

Maybe I'll try to transfer my profile to my lurker account because that username is "Hoesb4Bros" which cracks me up like every time I log in. I dunno how many girls will find it funny, but the ones who do will probably be my type.

I like The Dean better.

We won't know what to make of it. Should be obvious, but you just never know.

Girls don't know how to use the internet so you should be safe.

Actually some time ago a girl managed to find the email i used for my facebook by freakin adding my birth year preceded by _ to my email address to find the second one i had used. But she was bat**** crazy.

I've never done that before. It's unlikely that it will happen, but there are crazy stalker types out there.

A 2p2er found me on POF and my sn was nothing like the one I have here. I had mentioned in a thread that I was going to make an account. He PM'd me asking what my sn was, and I told him it was a secret and I'd never tell. His response: i'll find you!!!, and he tells me my sn the next day. This creeped the **** out of me.

jelly, i really want to know who the creepster was

PM sent! He still singles me out if he's posted in a thread I've already posted in.

Not a chick but a lot of your interests come across as sort of bland and are probably in >50% of guys profiles. A lot of people say they are avid hikers even if they aren't because it isn't something they can be called out on as opposed to saying they play the guitar. Fine dining and world travel are good but you are a student so a lot of girls will probably doubt you can provide it - I think this could be a pretty big obstacle to being a student in online dating. Your taste in TV shows and movies come as very young-guy centric. Nothing in your profile really portrays you as romantic or sexy or interesting. I would say give girls something they can relate to or feel drawn to: either devote yourself to something you are passionate about which then gives you something unique that they can identify you with, or find an activity you are interested in that a lot of girls like too such as learning to dance or cook.

All right, here is a situation I'm currently in: on Match, one of the girl's profiles who I looked at, looked at mine afterwards since you can tell who looked at your profile. I didn't email her initially, but after I saw that she look at my profile I went ahead and sent an email mentioning a bunch of things in her profile, specifically things we have in common. Being that this is Match.com and all, I figured there was about a 1 in a million chance she would reply, but she actually sent me an email back basically saying she liked my profile and would be up for meeting up for chatting.

So, I sent her a follow-up email a couple days later saying more-or-less "great, when is a good time to call". She emails me a couple days later saying "Hey, let's use normal email not Match.com email because it's easier" and that's it. So I email her like a day later from normal email account briefly telling her how my New Year's Eve was and asking, again, when a good time to call would be. Have not heard from her since. I'm probably over-thinking this, but what do you guys think? Did she decide she wasn't interested all the sudden? I'll probably send a follow up email in a few days in any case and if she doesn't reply to that, give her up, ldo. What is the normal time frame of email replies you expect from a girl who you have already have first contact with?

seems like a few days between messages was standard for you two. maybe she just hasn't gotten around to it yet?

i prefer moving things along faster online since in a few days she could get a ton of new messages/interests...

Definitely worth sending another one in a day or two. I had a girl come back to me saying "sorry, thought I'd replied to your previous message. Must have forgotten to press send". If you don't get a response to your second message then leave it and move on.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Insidecorner87

Constructive criticism welcome.

Before I can help you out - How much of this is true?

My page is full of lies. If you ask me particular things I'll tell you what's true and not true.

Are you going out for the Tampa Yankees?

In my dreams, sure.

-I'm going to assume the baseball and school thing is made up. If you're going to lie go BIG so there's no thought you're just kidding, or deviate from the truth a little by adding silly stuff. Believable lies will most likely hurt you.
-I'd omit income if you're not making 6 figures.
-You can't really blame a girl for asking what you do if you put other. Other makes people curious. Better to leave it and the rest of your others blank.
-I still don't think putting that pic of you and your date is a good idea. I'm someone who goes out of her way to avoid drama, and it's a major turn-off for me if I feel like I need to out do other females. I'll simply move on to the next one. Competition can bring out cattiness, and that's probably not what you're looking for in a woman.
-If you're teasing with the yoga, pilates or Richard Simmons is also a considerable option.
-Romantic dinner seems really cheesy to me
-It does hurt to be a black man in the online dating world, but you're a handsome guy and probably do better than most
-I don't absolutely know what you lied about, but everything else looks fine to me. You come off as intelligent and positive.

wow finally just caught up in this thread. LOL at the racism derail.

Amazing,

I would maybe put some pics up with your white friends if you are looking to get white girls. You are well spoken and smart, but most girls aren't so posting pics with white friends will tell them know you are not a thug.

Do you guys think it's alright for a dude to rock a ponytail or should I lie until I can cut it off? Seems to be very polarising not sure for the better though.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/as_8219?cf=visitors

Let me have it.

I'm not looking to get white girls. Race is irrelevant to me. All I want is the girl I'm dating not to beg me to pay her bills.

Nothing turns chicks on like Starcraft and poker chip tricks.

I like it. Pics are good and super interesting. 18-99 for an age range is a little weird though IMO. I'm probably not the best to critique the content/ style of your profile other than that, though, cuz apparently mine is ****.

Think you'll have much luck with the 99 year olds?