That's what I was afraid of. I think it's too late to change it up now based on the way our convo has gone, but I'll probably be looking to move quickly. She kind of hinted at the same thing, so it shouldn't be a big deal.

Also lol @ this fake sloth profile that just visited me. Who is that? I know it's one of you guys: "I’m really good at Hanging from trees, chewing, playing poker, dating and or relationship advice."

Hey all,

I got out of a long relationship a few months ago, so my game has declined since college (i'm 24 and dated this girl since my freshman year of college). I made a profile a few months ago, but got literally no attention. I casually sent out a few messages here and there and got crickets. I read through some of this thread and I definitely need to spice up my profile and add some flair to these messages I sent out.

Can I get a profile review?
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Let's get started...
- I'm Chinese, but don't speak a word of it (I speak far more sarcasm)
- I wish I could travel the world, but there's this thing holding me down (luckily, that thing gives me a pay check)
- I try to be as active as possible.
- I love food. All of it. Try naming a type of food I haven't tried.
- I don't like any mushrooms thanks to a terrible experience when I was a kid.
- I'm a goofball. But you already knew that by now.

Hopefully, the person reading this has a great sense of humor and an even better smile. Maybe we can travel the world or have a glass of wine while having a marathon of our favorite TV show. Either way, I can't do that stuff alone (or with other dudes).

Link to profile or no advice.

I'd offer to help...but I'm just the whipping boy around here.

I mentioned that girls haven't physically flinched or recoiled at the first mention of "roommates", but they HAVE reacted that way to "nights and weekends". I can see it if I say it in person; I can hear their voices change to ultra-cautious tones if I say it on the phone.

I've only been on a couple of dates since breaking up with my last gf--but that breakup was caused by her frustration with my schedule. "I thought I'd see more of you after we moved in together--but I don't!"

There's not much I can do about it. I guess I only mentioned it here because I was hoping someone had been down this road before me and found a site, or a way to customize a search, so I could start dating girls who work nights. I know they're out there!

(I'm usually off Tue-Thr-Fri most weeks; occasionally I gotta work a Friday, as well. 6 PM starts.)

Ytf,

Your schedule is not an issue.

Confirmed.
Definitely other issues

How do the nurses who work nightly 12s date?

LOL'd

Waitresses.

Haha, it is a good time, but no dates yet.

This girl I have been messaging the past two days send me her phone number and asks me to text her. I let her know I broke my phone and am waiting for a replacement. She responds with "lol fail".

I get my phone back in two days, anything I can do to keep her interested still?

Sounds pretty immature of her. I'd imagine a realistic person would give you one free pass on something.like this. Only one way to find out, I'd go ahead and text now.

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Why not just text her in 2 days? If she was interested to begin with, 2 days won't change much. Her comment sounds more like teasing than saying she's not interested anymore.

Any strategy on a non-response?

The girl from last week who went from being cautious because of my **** joke to wanting to meet up the next day has gone silent. I texted that last minute won't work for me and proposed something over the weekend. She replied she was going out of town and asked about next (this) week. I responded on Sunday and said anytime this week works and asked when she was available. No response. She's attractive so I'm hesitant to just let this one go. Throw out a hail mary text tomorrow, perhaps proposing a concrete day/time, or just forget about it?

Yeah, I took it to be teasing and nothing more. I actually chuckled when I read it and thought she sounded cool. Just continue to communicate in the way you have been. Then text her in two day. It's just 48 hours. wtf.

Pay: "Sounds pretty immature of her." Huh? "lol fail" is IMO a 100% normal response to his message.

pa: What d10 & dale said.

ATF: Always better go go with a specific suggestion. Anyway, don't sweat it, just text her "let's get together at x time/place" and see what happens.

I am planning on sending a text in two days, she is 25 so I guess it could be teasing. I just keep seeing FAIL in red. Over thinking probably.

I took it in literal sense, it's actually a funny response. I was def off on my read. Hate texting...

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"i can take your number but you can't text me anyway lol wait what's your name again so i can save it?"

OK still good.

Don't worry, we can all tell you don't like using smartphones because you haven't turned off the obnoxious cell phone signature.

One of my biggest challenges in online dating is suggesting a suitable location. I'm up against a couple of hurdles, I don't drink and I live/work outside of the major city where 98% of candidates live/work. Add to it that I rarely made it into the city while married and am therefore pretty unfamiliar with it and working out the date logistics leads to anxiety.

I've pulled the "since I'm coming to your hood, maybe you could suggest a destination" three times so far but I'm concerned that it comes off as super-weak / "unmanly". It's likely that I'm way over-thinking this but at the same time suggesting a ****ty destination or being unlucky and having to improvise on the fly (see: cemetery) can lead to uncomfortable situations.

Only one girl seemed concerned about the destination, which she suggested anyhow- the one who asked what car I drove and railroaded me into paying the lunch check. Since the first date is more times than not usually brief, should I even care about asking them to come up with a place to go?

ATF,

Just use Yelp or something and find a conveniently located coffeeshop to suggest?

Yeah, this is the easiest thing ever. Just find some cool patios in the city by googling or asking around.

As for not drinking, I don't really see how that matters. If I didn't drink, I'd probably still go to all the same places I go to now. I just wouldn't order alcohol.

ED,

Oh totally. Besides maybe meeting tomorrow, I have zero information on this girl. While I totally understand her wanting to cut through the back and forth messaging and just meet up to see how it works, it's totally unfamiliar territory to me.

I'm used to much more rapport, which allows me to more naturally disclose that I don't drink (**** me for indicating 'rarely' on my profile, gonna change that now), get some idea where she lives, etc. Doing all of this through text, especially with someone who has typed no more than thirty words to me, seems so ****ing weird.

ATF, are you an overthinker by any chance?