I didn't really think much before about what Kristy pointed out-men may prefer someone more easily manipulated, but I still think it's more of a "within Lapka" issue than an "AllMen" issue.

You could totally be a cool physicist who likes going to clubs and banging fun guys, so maybe it has to do with an insecurity of who you actually are? Wanting to separate your fun side from your professional side?

There's validity to this, and is likely going to be a blind spot to a forum full of professionals.

The male ego is a fragile thing.

Yeah, I knew a guy who told me he would never date a girl smarter than him because then he couldn't win any argument with her. I thought, and still think, it was one of the dumbest, saddest conversations I've ever had. At the same time I appreciate the honesty and that he knew himself that well.

Then you have all the people who think they are geniuses and aren't

I have a white-collar job with a salary slightly below the median average for my position and a B.A., but that's basically HS dropout in lolboston

Why do you stay in Boston then? I know it's an awesome city but if you can't land what you want, doesn't seem like an ideal spot.

It's anecdotal evidence and a limited sample but ime i'd rank them like this for quality of sex.

Bat **** crazy women>>>>>>>>>intelligent women>>>>dumb women

Volume is a different story though.

BSC women>>dumb women>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>intelligent women

So go with BSC!

But I have to admit, that it is probably true.

For what I'm working towards (speech writing & coaching consulting), the ceiling is way higher, along with far more opportunities to meet the kind of woman I'm looking for/city life is awesome. All my friends in the burbs seem to basically move in with anyone they date past a month :what:

I'd rank men

Dumb>intelligent>>>>>>>BSC

Mostly because if you think he's dumb you just do what you like, but if He is BSC you're gonna get hurt or grossed out.

Momma always said, "whores hate hoarders."

But how good is your average attractive sociopath of a guy?

story of my life

how big is the message limit anyways (what am I up against)

This is definitely part of the problem. Trying to find a decent guy or girl in a club in your late thirties is never going to work out. It doesn't represent the average of the population either - it probably represents the guys who don't want to settle down, who are struggling to find someone to settle down, or have the night off from their partner. None of these groups is going to be interested/interesting.

Fwiw smart women are super hot. I'm currently dating a girl with a good job who did (but did not complete) her PhD. The previous two girls I dated were a vet and a solicitor.

You just need to figure out where other smart people hang out. Have you tried something like Salsa? usually full of (at face value) smart, interesting people.

It would be an incorrect one. Based on a sample size of 1, a friend of mine who falls in this category is one of the most interesting people I know (and the smartest by some distance).

How rare is it for a girl to lie about her age on Tinder? I met a 29-year old for drinks, but people would probably guess she's 5 years older than me (I'm 33). Maybe just looks old for her age? Other than that, it was a solid date. She's cute and interesting enough, and I love the fact that she was engaging on Tinder, asked a lot of questions on the date (essential when the date is in French), and texted 90 minutes after the date that she had a great time. Seems standard, but all that is sometimes rare here, so I appreciate her straightforward approach and it actually makes me want to see her more.

Been discussed before in this thread a bit, but IME some women who haven't taken care of themselves when they were young (sun exposure, tanning beds, smoking etc.) seem to really age around 27+. Seems to be around that age it catches up with them for whatever reason from my experience. Small sample size, but I recall several of the girls I had gone on dates with that were 27+ looked old in person, whereas others in the same range still looked young.

Although, I wouldn't say they looked 38+ as you're suggesting this girl did. They just definitely had an older look to them compared to other women their age I had dates with. I never noticed this issue with women 25 and under.

Ok so the 4 girl experiment was dumb. It was just to much to deal with after about a week. I forgot which number was which but....

I told my Ex I couldn't randomly sleep with her anymore because there was to much history. Really the sex wasn't the same since we broke up. No more freaky stuff just making love. Which is fine but I need/like the freaky stuff. She told me she was done with that forever. It seems she might have just been experimenting with me and I could never be happy not being adventurous in bed.

I then told the girl i met on Tinder that was terrible in bed that we werent a match. This girl had a great heart but sex really wasn't her thing. She needs a once a month type guy. She kind of agreed with my assessment and wasn't mad. I hope she finds someone. She's a good person.

I freaked out on the crazy girl with the amazing body that squirted all over the place. She was just to nuts. She was talking exclusiveness after the second date. She was great in bed but I can't do it. Told her to stay the **** away from me. I miss her some nights. I made a mistake breaking this one off. She would have been down to do a 3 some I think.

I am still seeing the bi-sexual pot head. I think she's pretty cool. I like listening to music with her and hanging out. Unfortunately she's like a 4 in bed. I've only gotten her off a few times out of like the dozen times we've had sex. She knows we're not exclusive but I can see her starting to catch feelings because I am so patient and I don't judge. I make her laugh and i keep making her feel great about herself. She's digging me but........im to sexual for her. It's doomed. Asked her if we didn't work out could we stay friends and she said no. Ugh I'm going over there tomorrow night but I'm not sure how to break it to her. I need to stop ****ing her ASAP.

I met this other girl off Tinder and she's just ridiculous in bed. I wish I could post a picture I took of her on top of me but she made me promise if i took pictures of her i'd never show them. Got to be the best rack I've seen on top of me in well....forever. She likes a bunch of the same stuff I do but.....theres something bothering me about this girl though. Something just doesn't feel right. So I'm not going to get to caught up in her yet.

You should learn the difference between to and too.


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At this point,does it matter?

If you enjoy her company,find her attractive and she likes you as well,don't worry about it.

Now if it starts to get more serious,then it could be a factor.

I've found that right around 38-40 is when the bottom falls out on looks for most people,of course some have peaked earlier,but if they make a point to keep up their appearance,it seems no matter what,a majority just starts to look their age or worse.

Slight humble brag/depressing moment for me...

Awhile back I was frequenting a local hangout when a very beautiful waitress I had never seen before makes a point to introduce herself to me.

Now I know it's their business to be friendly,but also having dated many in the customer service industry,I can usually tell if it's business or actually more,..usually....

Anyway,she finds ways of talking to me,giving signals that are more than typical waitress-customer interaction.

This is over the course of a few visits,and at first I'm flattered,but not getting my hopes up.

We talk enough finally that it dawns on her to ask,"just how old are you anyway?"

I tell her,and the look on her face went from smiling and attentive,to abject horror and revulsion.

She quickly recovered,but I could tell she was shocked.

From then on,she was friendly,but noticeably cool,more like typical service staff.

I found out that I was twice her age,it's possible I'm even older than her parents.

So there's that depressing derail...

Anyways,age is just a number!



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Bummer man...

Does this type of guy exist? Or probably it will be some nice sap who wishes for a lot more sex, but doesn't say anything.

https://www.thestar.com/life/2017/05...sex-ellie.html

They need to swap partners so everyones libidos match up.

I'm 40. It's fair to say it's probably not happening. I think if you can replace it with the word "also" then you should use "too" or some **** like that. Meh I just don't care enough.

On a side note and a little off topic I'm buying this guy a beer when he's back in Colorado.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jason_Lewis_(adventurer)

After reading his story and realizing he literally lives an hour and 10 mins from me I emailed him and asked if he wanted to get a beer. I was surprised that i got a quick response. Pretty excited about that.

Cool, I hope he has a high libido!