You don't think she should have cancelled if she was (legit) sick?

Anyhow... Obviously not kissing her is fine. If it really went well I'd send her a text saying as much

As somebody that has tried online dating in the past i offer one bit of advice. Card them. Anybody looking under 25 card them. Its for your own protection. Especially with a bunch of these random dating apps that don't verify age.

I'd just set up a date and let it flow from there. If she's going to do it, it won't take much effort from you (as long as you're not totally awkward or something).

it saved my boay Joe Namath some embarrassment on live TV once

Sounds like a good story,feel free to share if the statue of limitations allow.



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My kickball team was discussing Tinder at the bar after our game last week. Possibly Foreign Blonde Girl(23) asks me "Don't you just swipe right every time?" I said "I don't on Tinder, but I do on Bumble"

We matched on Bumble earlier this week.

She kept the match for the full 24 hours, but never sent a message. I don't remember if I got into my view of "I'd swipe left on people I know, because if anything was gonna happen it would happen in person"

We got rained out last week, but it should be a fun season. Fun fact: The girl who I temporarily went off the market for is also on the team...need to channel my inner GoodGame.

The same as it normally would be.

Flirt back a little but you still generally need to have some mild genuine conversation before they'll meet. I have little to no experience with women who would literally just come over sight unseen.

Also stop looking so hard for DTF, just filter out the ones who explicitly want a LTR (maybe). They're rarely going to write in the profile that they just want casual sex, even if they do. Treat all about the same, fun flirty short convos until you ask them for a drink and their number (giving yours too). Same deal whether you're looking for a LTR or just a one night stand.

https://youtu.be/bW2e_SecXt8

Regarding the age thing.

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GTFO. Honey, I'm going to need to card you so I can make sure you are of age. There are other less obvious ways to find out how old a girl actually is. I wouldn't be so up front as to ask them to see their id

Did you not see the YouTube video?

I hope most women are upfront and honest,but if you have any qualms,I don't think asking her for ID is too much to ask.

Ofc you can find other ways to determine age,but it shouldn't be offensive to ask.

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Just ask her teacher her age when you pick her up for your next date from her high school

I got fb questions again, different girl than the ones I asked about a few posts back, which I got no replies haha

I see a chick at the bar and we do the ol, do I know you, no but you look familiar, do you know so n so? Thing. So im hitting on her throughout the night, she's into it, but im getting cock blocked by her friends cause she's not quite single and my wingman is useless n can't distract em for a minute. The bar is closing, one last shot I say, my rides coming I'll take you home with me, and get shutdown

a few weeks later from the bar, I'm with our common connection, her dad haha She shows up n sees me, walks up n hits me up. I jump right back into it, hey, what's up, what you doing tonight? Let me get your #. She says hit her up on fb. I'm like let me just get your #. She says the msg thing is like her # it go's right to her phone

The next day I find her and send a friend request, but my buddy says you can msg without being friends, and she might not want to be friends or give her # cause she still might not be single. I'm thinking even better, cause I'd rather do the bar pickup or side action than start making plans n dates. So I msg asking what she's doing that night but a few hours later she accepted the friend request but didn't respond to the msg

Normally I'd just wait it out, but I've been so aggressive and to the point I don't think sending another msg necessarily has the usual desperate feel

What ya think?

If you saw her 2x within a few weeks at the bar, I'd just wait it out until you run into her again. Sending another message would come across as desperate IMO given her responses to how aggressive you've already been.

You should have a few other girls in the mix anyway, so waiting until you run into her again shouldn't be an issue.

In the future you should wait for friend request to be accepted before sending a FB message. While you can read someone's message without being a friend if you specifically look for it., the system does not alert you that you have a message waiting.
Even after you accept them as a friend, your prior message may get lost in a lot of other messages if she uses the system a lot (and it looks like this one does).

OK, nice good info. I was thinking you had to be friends to msg, then my buddy said it doesn't matter and she might not want to be friends and the way she made it sound, it was like it was as good as a # and to message her, nothing about friends. So I'd think she'd be lookin for it, but I don't use so I don't know. I'm hoping she can't answer n gets back tues or Wed, if not I'll hit her up, unless you think she probably never saw it. What do you think?

It's hard to say; messaging again might seem pushy, but then again she might not have seen your first message. You could maybe try to post something silly on her wall or a comment on one of her posts to keep you in her mind.

Wait a week and message again. I don't think your chances are high because of the reluctance to give her actual number.

I'm not actively looking for DTF. Just came across a girl's profile who was.

Well, this is a first. My top 3 targets are all named Charlotte, and it's probably not even a top 10 female name in France, so it's a very unlikely coincidence. At least I won't have to worry about calling my date the wrong name!

I wasn't sure what to read from not giving the #, but still thought it was very high probability. not being single made sense. And thought the detail I did give about the bar, with her approaching me the second time that most would, no? Which wasn't at a bar and she went out of her way to do it

At the bar she said she's single, her friend says really? She says, we'll kind of, I've been seeing a guy a few months but yada yada yada...so ya, i can say I'm single. I say, oh ya? We'll show him haha, she got excited and gave me a high five. when it didn't happen I figured she had second thoughts about being single, at least in front of the friends

So when she initiated the second time, I'm thinking jackpot again. That's why I was curious about opinions, cause by what I hear she's definitely fun and I'm wondering about working fb in general

She's shopping her options,so making you a fb contact keeps her from getting busted by any compromising texts ?

She can instant message you and not get found out?

That's all I can think of,if what she said at the bar is genuine.

But look at it as being the back up plan.

That would leave a bad taste in my mouth if I really was interested in her.


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This post reminds me of myself years ago, and many other guys. You're obsessing over silly details and trying to figure out if one woman likes you or not.

The faster you can stop thinking in this way, the better. In general, ask people out quickly and move on if it doesn't work out. Get Tinder or whatever apps are better in your area and swipe a lot. You shouldn't have this much time to be thinking about just one person.

Also, if someone won't give you their number, there is no reason to think you have a shot or to give that person the time of day. If she comes around eventually great, if she doesn't well that's also great. That should be the only mindset you can allow yourself to have.

Thanks, but I'm suprised I came off as a sucker in those posts, wait till you hear about the one I wanna take home and keep forever n ever haha not the one I hoped wasn't single. I thought it was such a sure thing I'd be a sucker if I didn't land it, and thought the few details I did give were big indicators of that, not silly details. Thanks guys, I'm still learning

Chief,

How old are you?