Unless you're paying for individual text messages, what is the cost in asking her out again?

The cost is looking like a dumbass because she already said no!

Madison might be a small enough pond that the risk of reputation damage outweighs the benefits of having a small chance at a second date. In a large metro, I'd agree with Nick.

Hey all been reading through the last few pages of this thread and thought I would get some advice.

Bit of background, moved to South London from my hometown and don't know many people in the area and looking to start dating girls & meeting people in the area. Mainly going to use POF, unfortunately i'm not the most confident guy with people i'm unfamiliar with and I think that comes across occasionally in my messages.

Anyway sent out a few quick tailored messages to 4 or 5 girls and got a fairly quick reply from a 7 but not anything which leaps out that I can reply with.

I obviously need help with my online dating game but I try as best I can. Her profile had a few things which I could relate to; job in finance, personality animal lover and 3 things she likes in her about me section, motorbikes, ballet & sandwiches.

So I opened...

"Finance, animal lover, motorbikes, ballet & sandwiches. I've been trying to figure out which is my favourite...unfortunately it's sandwiches for me"

Thoughts on this open? Flame away haha if its really bad I'll take on all criticism

She replied, "Haha me too"

Is there something I can reply to this?

Offer to grab a bite then

Tk,

That's fine, but in the future in messages like this I think it comes off better if instead of "unfortunately it's sandwiches" you go with something like "sandwiches of course!"

Can you reply? Ask her out for high tea of course!

I'd rather just dive in on one topic, but she responded, so that's good. Ask her out for a bite and in the future try to end with a question she'll be interested in responding to with more than one word.

Have already met two guys this week, probably meeting one tomorrow and one next week as well, plus a second date with someone from this week.

This seems easier than last time I was online dating.

Being (a) female and (b) willing to meet is helpful. Good luck RJ!

Still seems easier.

I mean even excluding the messages from people who just creep me out. For the first time ever, I actually blocked someone just based on their initial message. Between that and his profile I was legitimately worried he had serial killer potential.

tbab moved to the east coast?

Epic troll

I like this opener. Personally, I think anything that isn't "hey, how are you?" will get a reply if she is interested in your profile - When I get a message I check out photos, then the profile, then the message - if either of the first two don't measure up, I'll delete the message without reading it.

What was the message?

She got there early! Looked well, nice small dress. She didn't drink, the bar we settled was kinda noisy and he English was heavily accented and by no means fanatic. She didn't have a great amounts of interest (like didn't cook, play sport etc) we deof did not click. I think she was a little out of her comfort zone in a noisy bar though.

Found myself hoping she wasn't going to be there when I came back from the toilet. She called it a night just after 12 which was fine, small hug goodbye.

I kinda feel like I'd like to know her in her area, like park cycle or something but I think it's rather pointless suggesting another date.

Sent a quick txt saying I had a good time and unlucky that is was a noisy bar, she sent back this so I'm going to leave it there.

"Hi wanna, nice to meet you too! No worries, anyway thank you very much for the consideration I had a very nice time! Have a nice day!"

He asked something that suggested he had gone looking for information outside OKC.

Pretty sure my pic game is far from optimal. Which ones of these should I use considering how good they are and how recent they are? What kind of stuff do I need? I think a pic of my upcoming improv show would be good so hopefully someone will photograph that.

Threadsaver to make up for pics of me

Not a fan of 1 or 6 (ATF sighting itt) and probably just need 1 soccer pic

Bobbo,

#1 maybe
#2/3 no
#4/5 yes to one or both
#6/7 no
#8 yes if you crop out all the nametag people

A good casual daytime pic would be good.

A couple girls liked the painting pic because it showed I did community service.I'm doing Habitat for Humanity soon so I could get a better pic at that.

Last one is a great pic of you, but its probably too cluttered to serve as a lead. The sports pics are really good as well, but I wouldn't use them as your lead either unless being a rugby guy is a really crucial part of your identity. Don't really like any of the pics that are just you, so you need to get a good shot that's focused on you to serve as a lead.

Don't think recency matters, since your appearance hasn't really changed in any of the pictures.

4th or 5th are best. 6th, 8th would be ok if not other people and doesn't seem like you can crop them out and still have good quality picture left.
Recency doesn't matter since you seem to look the same now as few years ago. Probably will sound stupid but maybe smile less when posing for a pic?

Soccer/rugby pics are best IMO. Lol'd at the ATF pic. Who was the girl in that pic again?