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11-22-2014 , 05:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Oski
If you've protected yourself from drastic new debts, I think your best move is to not get a lawyer - at least yet.

If you two can agree (at least roughly) on how to divide assets and debts, then it is best to mutually hire a lawyer to work out the finer points of the agreement and draft up the papers.

In my experience, this is the best move.

Unless you have complicated assets, large income, or children, there is really nothing to fight over. Getting lawyers involved as litigators is very expensive (and often unnecessary).

The statutes are going to cover all of your issues.
The lawyer isn't to squeeze the most out of the wife. It's to keep OP from doing something extremely ******ed that will cost him way more than the lawyer will. Given the first post, OP seems perfectly capable of doing something extremely stupid.
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11-22-2014 , 06:33 PM
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Originally Posted by crashjr
The lawyer isn't to squeeze the most out of the wife. It's to keep OP from doing something extremely ******ed that will cost him way more than the lawyer will. Given the first post, OP seems perfectly capable of doing something extremely stupid.
Yes, but given subsequent posts, it seems that he has been advised against taking extremely stupid actions.

Now that he has closed down the line of credit, there is really nothing of substance on the table.

They just need to divide up the community property in a fashion the suits them. My quick read is that it is unlikely they have substantial assets or debts and that both of them are employed (therefore, spousal support will not be a huge issue - they can just run a dissomaster and then agree on an end date).

Once they get that agreement distilled down to an understanding they can hire a neutral attorney for a few hours to work out the finer points (like tax implications, equalization payments - if any, and support - if any).

Neither one should hire an attorney until they are sure this cannot be worked out. I hate to see a couple each hire attorneys such that they are now paying two attorneys to work out who gets grandma's candle stick holders.
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11-22-2014 , 07:27 PM
How do you stop loving your wife on a dime?
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11-22-2014 , 08:02 PM
Thinking about how many other barebacks she's had and/or picture her with some other guys goo dripping from her mouth...

Prolly pretty easy to snap move on IMO
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11-22-2014 , 08:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Tuma
How do you stop loving your wife on a dime?
I'd say when you find out she was taking it in every hole from a multitude of different lovers for a very long period of time might just be a significant moment.
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11-22-2014 , 08:18 PM
If this is how you deal with things your wife's behaviour is pretty much expected. Don't try to game the system -- you don't have enough to bother and you're not smart enough to. Go see a divorce lawyer on Monday. Do whatever the lawyer tells you to do.
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11-22-2014 , 08:52 PM
Maybe the sister is working the 5th level and is making all this up for her own agenda...hmmm.
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11-22-2014 , 09:18 PM
Why the obsession with keeping this unused line of credit open? Just close it and be done with it.
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11-22-2014 , 09:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Tuma
How do you stop loving your wife on a dime?
He was pretty sure she was cheating all along, so I'm assuming he wasn't too happy the whole time. Just did not have proof yet.
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11-22-2014 , 10:17 PM
Close the line of credit. Now.
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11-22-2014 , 10:49 PM
a bit surprised about the wife knowing 2p2 handle thing. do we really think she's going to be thinking to look up his posts?
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11-22-2014 , 10:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Saklad
Level 5?
Ya this
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11-22-2014 , 11:24 PM
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Originally Posted by revots33
Why the obsession with keeping this unused line of credit open? Just close it and be done with it.
I enjoyed the part where he explained what a line of credit is.
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11-22-2014 , 11:30 PM
Really would help to know what state OP is in. Mods traceroute him, it won't train wreck him.
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11-22-2014 , 11:35 PM
Just saw Gone Girl. Afraid for OP.
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11-23-2014 , 03:51 AM
OP. More details on the cheating please. And why were you suspicious before?
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11-23-2014 , 03:58 AM
I've been in a custody battle recently and here are some of my thoughts on lawyers:

If you can get your wife to be amicable hire a "nice guy" attorney.

Don't trust avvo

If you think it's going to be messy hire a bulldog. They will use all the dirty tricks such as presenting evidence to your wife's attorney with the minimal amount of time possible.

Don't be afraid to fire an attorney

You might want to try mediation first before any lawyers are involved.
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11-23-2014 , 04:04 AM
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Don't trust avvo
reason for this?
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11-23-2014 , 04:53 AM
You must be some poker player.
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11-23-2014 , 05:02 AM
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11-23-2014 , 06:59 AM
Judge won't give much credit to the angle-shooting pokerplaying degenerate gambler claiming his wife is a cheater to try to distract from his financial problems. Get a lawyer.
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11-23-2014 , 07:36 AM
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Originally Posted by stealinpotatoes
Judge won't give much credit to the angle-shooting pokerplaying degenerate gambler claiming his wife is a cheater to try to distract from his financial problems. Get a lawyer.
And however little truth there is in this analysis, posting in this thread your intention to conceal money etc from your wife may well come back and bite you, OP. Stop treating this as a game (unless you don't mind losing any more than you have already). Stop creating tarps for yourself, and get a lawyer to help you come out of this smelling as rosy as you can.
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11-23-2014 , 08:11 AM
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Originally Posted by bobman0330
You should forget the legal strategizing and figure out how to sleep with her sister.
I advise against this
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11-23-2014 , 11:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Banned4lyfe
reason for this?
A lot of the reviews are fake. A lawyer can also get a great star rating simply by answering some questions in their free advice forum. It's
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11-23-2014 , 12:42 PM
Hire her moms firm to represent you. That way she can not seek advise from her mom....lol
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