I'm assuming that she knows your 2p2 username. Good luck when her and her lawyers find this thread.

should have folded pre OP. am i doing it right?

Call a divorce lawyer now and stop talking about this on the internet or elsewhere. Your wife's sister will probably tell your wife about her confession, so assume your wife will know that you know very soon. I doubt you'll have time to go through any of that list before things get heated. Call lawyer now please. Lock down accounts after that, today if possible.

Take this as the gospel.

Truth. Good luck with this tedious endeavor and may the cards ever be in your favor.

More of the good word.

Stop trying to figure out ways to lie and steal, start trying to get correct legal advice before you **** yourself and she has a reason to clean your ass out

meet with all the divorce lawyers in the state

Thank FSM you don't have children.

Stop poasting now and call a divorce lawyer. It's safe to assume that your wife knows about your 2+2 name and will know that you know about her cheating very soon.

And absolutely bang her sister. Make sure wife finds out about it.

You have to proceed with the assumptions that the sister has already told the wife about cracking, and that your wife already knows you know.

Lawyer up immediately. Close accounts immediately. Don't confront your wife. Stop posting ITT now, but come back and give us a full TR in a year.

Could this have been a reason she looked around for attention?

Sorry to hear this.

Act like a Roman emperor would: kill everyone involved, take their property, and exile your former wife to a small island.

+ infinity

and you never bothered to look into it?

GPS on car pls.

Having gone through something similar myself, I empathize. I have kids with my ex and our divorce was quite civil though... All hope is not lost.

Regarding the line of credit, you could just close it and open yourself one in your name. Or, just close it and start saving money. Doesn't sound like you guys manage your money well, which was another problem in my marriage.

Things may seem a bit doom and gloom right now, but in reality this is a new lease on life. Don't rush into another relationship. Being single after a long, inauthentic marriage feels amazing. Get to that place and relish it.

Ok so her sister already called her this morning to confess. So wife admits what she did, but only admits to one thing because she thought that was all her sister said. I grill her with questions such as "is there anything else you want to tell me?" which she she adamantly denies. So I start naming people that her sister told me and my wife just breaks down and runs out of the room, more lies obviously.

Anyway at this point I'm pretty well protected, it was just that untapped 10k line of credit that I didnt want her messing with, or disputing me over "who gets it" since it's just a fricken credit card. I'd hate to close it just to get her to shut up about it but if thats what has to be done then so be it. I'll have a sit down with her later this evening and just go over my aforementioned sheet of to-do items so she can be prepared for whats next. She's overall a pretty civil person so I dont expect some sort of jealous crazy rage war of us trying to screw each other.

GET A LAWYER!

What actual proof do you have?

gl with that

All you need is a good place to hide the body

Jav,

Close the line of credit and post pics of wife and sister. Seems obvious sister is trying to get you to **** her.

Get a lawyer... I can't believe nobody else suggested this yet.

Posting nudes seems like a legit option in this case actually

either lawyer up or this.

The play here seems to be go all in on the sister.

If you've protected yourself from drastic new debts, I think your best move is to not get a lawyer - at least yet.

If you two can agree (at least roughly) on how to divide assets and debts, then it is best to mutually hire a lawyer to work out the finer points of the agreement and draft up the papers.

In my experience, this is the best move.

Unless you have complicated assets, large income, or children, there is really nothing to fight over. Getting lawyers involved as litigators is very expensive (and often unnecessary).

The statutes are going to cover all of your issues.