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Originally Posted by multitablegrinder
This is never going to be an interesting debate because when you have your own child it is different and therefore you will not understand until you are a parent. A sentiment echoed by practically every parent.
Childless people judging the prospect of parenthood on their observation of random children, again silly, but I have been there.
You really sound like you're trying to convince
somebody that having kids are great.
Personally, I go back and forth between wanting kids and not wanting kids. For about year now I've been firmly in the "no kids" zone. Simply put, I like my life without children. ****, sometimes I resent our
dogs because of the time and money they require.
The funny thing is I've actually had this conversation with quite a few people at work (among nurses/nurse practitioners). The majority of these people are women and most of them with kids. And most of them will wistfully say, "yeah, sometimes I really regret having kids".
Most memorable scenarios involve one of our respiratory therapists hearing me say that my husband and I are on the fence and she basically said, "don't do it. don't get me wrong I love my kids, but if I could do it again, I wouldn't".
Most recently it was a nurse in her 50s with both of her children grown. We were talking about retirement. When I said, "I guess it'll be easier to save for retirement without kids" eventually the conversation came to, "kids are great, but I don't know if they're worth it" from her. And she lives a pretty fun life now (goes on vacation for about 5 weeks throughout the year).
I love my husband more than I thought I could love someone. And he would be a great father, and it would be an amazing thing to experience with him. But babies grow up. The world can be a really difficult and ****ty place. And quite frankly I'm already tired of being an adult.