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Originally Posted by Yeti
jesus christ OOT has gone downhill lately.
multitablegrinder has now deleted the post he made that (mostly) prompted this post fwiw
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Originally Posted by multitablegrinder
yeah you made several posts about it already in the topic. r u drunk?
you don't need to make 3 posts in 2 minutes. you can just put them all in the same post please. we can tell by your reg date you are new (or more likely a previously banned poster), a 200 post count or 40 post count isn't going to make a difference.
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Originally Posted by Yakmelk
I would love to have a good conversation about this because I think it also has to do with the way its being modded, not attacking anyone, just a different path has been chosen imo. Im probably not old skool enough tho.
feel free to make the thread and we'll participate. i used to just silently delete posts now and then (very rarely), but i don't really do that any more. most people would be appalled by mods taking that action and are of the opinion if a post isn't breaking the T&Cs it should be left there. for example i'd love to delete all the posts by multitablegrinder in this thread, but we're not curators.
regarding the tone, yeah...i've frequently posted in a pretty abrasive manner for the last ten years but i've oscillated between that and polite, helpful posts. there's just a ton of posters around now who are nothing but ****bags in every single post. it's like being invaded by a ton of teenagers going through puberty.
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Originally Posted by multitablegrinder
This is never going to be an interesting debate because when you have your own child it is different and therefore you will not understand until you are a parent. A sentiment echoed by practically every parent.
Childless people judging the prospect of parenthood on their observation of random children, again silly, but I have been there.
right, but as has already been said a few times, the counter-argument to that would be once you have children you are in no position to be objective.
i come from a working class town and my high school wasn't great. as a result, i'm friends with a few guys and girls on facebook who had kids pretty young. come birthday time i semi-regularly see them post nauseating stuff about how their kid was the greatest thing to ever happen in their lives and they worship them. this is not a surprise to me, as i can't imagine anyone ever broadcasting that, for example, they hugely regret a dumb thing they did when young and resent their child because of it. or, alternatively, maybe they do truly love their kid and their life, but they have no possible way of understanding what their life might have been like without them.
i doubt that example applies to too many people in this thread - i'm sure most people here had kids in loving, stable relationships when they were a little bit older, but the general points stand. it's a complicated issue that no one on either side is capable of fully articulating, so to act like this is a simple case of the naive vs the enlightened is silly.
having said that, given parents have at some point been on both sides of the coin, i am super interested to hear balanced, thoughtful views from smart people, especially those who once battled with this dilemma. but stuff like 'it's different when it's your kid' / 'you wouldn't understand until you have kids' is nearly always uninteresting and unhelpful.