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Originally Posted by TypicalBro
Yeah, but in your first 4 examples, that person is an authority figure in some way. You're generally just trying to avoid trouble. The fifth is barely even human, biologically (brain chemistry, overall development) speaking, so whatever.
I don't think, as a heterosexual male, that I should act differently around a 25 year old woman in a social setting than a 25 year old man in the same setting. I am not the kind of person that is interested in the life details of someone I don't know. This shouldn't have to change because they have a vagina.
I don't know ... the above whining aside, I know your overall point is correct, in that we have "different personalities based on context". It's trivially true, I suppose. Bums me out. I just wanna be me, as trite as that sounds.
I used to think insanely similar to you. Women rave on all the time about wanting equality, being treated the same as a man, etc. Yes, women should be treated equally, but they are also different and should be treated as such.
When you have the boys around for beers and football for example, the conversation is not going to go the same as if there were women there. If it did, most women probably would be bored, and quite likely offended at the general conversation. The same as if you are with your friends, you don't act the same as if you're with your grandparents.
Sales taught me a lot about picking up girls. Firstly, they make a decision quite quickly about whether they want to talk to you - so appearance is quite important. You don't need to be hot, per se, but a good haircut, nice clothes, and good cologne is essential.
Next, you need to essentially mirror your customer (or girl). Find out their interests, find common ground, be fun, always be smiling & happy and be casual (this may take time if you're a noob, and that's ok)
In the end, it does suck you have to play these stupid games. They're illogical, ******ed, and kindness and intelligence should trump just about anything imo. But girls are girls. They enjoy the chase more than the catch. It's why they can go out, have 10 guys coming onto them and still choose to go home alone.
Focus on the chase more than the end game, because even though you want that so bad, you've got to play it her way, because that's the society we live in. For example, if you're playing poker you don't usually turn your hand over before the flop or you'll get no money in the pot.