Hey guys. I'm 25 and I've never had a girlfriend. I'm not like physically disabled or hideous or anything. I'm just a pussy I guess. Never had the guts. I do admit I'm short, only 5' 6" and that makes things very difficult but I also know it shouldn't be impossible.

Some background info. I did nothing really social in high school. Never went to parties and never did anything on weekends. Just studied, played golf, and hung out with my few close friends. I could relate to the characters in Superbad even though they did eventually go to a party in the movie. I didn't even go to prom or graduation. College was ok I guess. Went to some frat parties a few times but didn't really feel like I fit in and stayed away for the most part. I stopped being a social recluse my junior and senior year but by that time I felt too embarrassed to really get close to anyone. Unfortunately for me I crashed and burned when I tried to hang out with the 2 or 3 girls that I really liked. I tried to befriend them first and made it way to obvious that I was into them in a nervous awkward way. So lame. I hate myself when I think about that. Anyways, only when I would hang out with girls I had no interest in would I succeed in developing any attraction. It's only happened 2 or 3 times when a girl has made it obvious that they liked me and I just couldn't hook up with them because I'm terrified of settling for a girl I really don't like. I feel like if I give in and start dating just any girl even though I don't like who they are, eventually I'll just get used to them and give up looking for someone that I really feel like I could be with and be happy. And btw when I hang out, it's always been totally ambiguous. I've never made my intentions clear with a girl or told a girl that I like them.

Anyways, I've just gotten over a girl who I now know I will never have a shot with. I used to hang out with her and she was a running buddy. I was really hung up on her and couldn't move on. Luckily I caught her on a bad day when she wasn't looking her best. She used to be perfect in my eyes and all her imperfections were perfect. Then on this one day, she wasn't looking so good and I suddenly realized how boring she was when she talked and how unintelligent she was. Don't get be wrong, she is still one of the best people I've ever known but I definitely put her up on a pedestal.

Now I wanna go out and ask out the first girl that I meet randomly and feel attracted to. I don't want to do this ambiguous hey let's be friends and hang out first bs. I need to change up my game, grow a pair of balls, and just let a girl know that I'm into them and I wanna court them. Do you guys have any advice? I'm not into pick up lines but I do think some openers work better than others. For now I just was hoping for support from you guys. I'm really gonna go out tomorrow and start mingling like crazy and my goal is to ask someone out by the end of the month. Then from there I'll have no idea how to proceed if a girl says yes. So I'll probably have more questions when things come up.

I really hope I can turn things around for myself. It bothers me that I've never had one intimate moment with another person where another person and I could look at each other and I could know for certain that we both felt the same way. Sounds corny but fml I've never even kissed a girl.

If you guys have any advice for me please share!!! Thanks so much. And please no comments that are mean.

Well, you've identified your problem. GL with executing it.

tl; dr.

but just do it. this is your first step which is good. now move on to step 2 and hit the open market.

post trip report

Just man up and do it. GL.

Just get a damn hooker and its over

That won't help.

this. stop giving a **** what girls think of you and just be yourself. if they don't like it, **** them. you'll figure out what works for you and what doesn't. <dumb ass cliche>you'll learn more from trying and failing than from not trying at all.</dumb ass cliche>

good luck

OP,
Good luck to ya.

Not to get you down, but be prepared to get rejected the first couple times. If you've never asked out a girl before, you're gonna be nervous and awkward... but you gotta do it and get through this stage until you can be yourself/comfortable.

Feeling stupid is an acquired taste. Stick with it.

You've settled on exactly the right strategy. As far as your specific plan, seriously don't worry about it. Think of the first few tries as your experiment. You may come across as awkward or whatever, and get shot down; but it will get easier with time.

Have you tried Internet dating? There's lots of girls out there in the same boat, and many of them are on the Internet.

When I came back from a trip abroad in college, I decided that I would go crazy dating girls. I'd had a string of relationships prior to that, but I decided I just wanted to go on A LOT of dates with a lot of girls, and so got into the habit of any girl out that I was remotely interested in for whatever reason. It had amazing results. A couple bad dates that I laugh about in hindsight, but put me in a spot where - when I met the love of my life - I manned up and asked her out. She said yes, and we've been together 12 years. Good luck, OP, and don't sweat the failures. Just be proud that you're giving yourself a chance.

something i did my freshman year of college to get my confidence up was play a game with myself.
I would go to partys with the mentality of telling myselfl that i was not going to hook up with a girl. No matter what. Even if they were a dime and threw themselves at me.
Doing this loosened me up and made it less awkward when i talked to really good looking girls because i didnt want anything from them.

AFter a few partys when i saw that girl responded to my personality and just went with the flow, and that allowed me to get with girls.

The most important think i learned in college about girls, and this is from my personal experience is that, letting a girl know u like them adds pressure for them to like you back, and they dont like that pressure. It is better not to let them know exactly how you feel about them.
Awkward silences are a great thing. Do not feel like you need to say a stupid joke or say "this is an awkward silence" in order to keep the convo going.
Go with the flow and if nothing else, you can say you acted as yourself, and if it doesnt work out theres always tomorrow

Copy and paste your OP to a dating site with a good pic, and you'll have all kinds of options. Girls like fixer-uppers, and you need fixer-uppering.

i registered on a dating site recently, but no one is interested in fixing me up ):