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04-02-2009 , 02:19 AM
Update please. Italian, did you try contacting or facebooking the girl?
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04-03-2009 , 07:22 AM
yea cmon this needs an update , or were u just wasting OOT's valuable time!!!
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04-03-2009 , 12:14 PM
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Originally Posted by MicroBob
Update please. Italian, did you try contacting or facebooking the girl?
He probably went with option C - build a dungeon and kidnap her.
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05-17-2009 , 11:48 PM
THIS IS LONG AND I AM NOT GOING TO CLIFF NOTE IT.

Hey I'm going to update this now. I don't really look at 2+2 that often anymore. I don't spend a lot of time on my computer now that I stopped playing WoW.

Anyways, so the preliminary was continued for like 2 weeks because she got an attorney and the attorney needed to review the case. Eventually, the date came and this girl wasn't there. It was only her grandma and her dad. After all was said and done, the District Attorney wanted to give the brother's girlfriend 30 days to 1 year in jail, but in return, drop it from a felony to a misdemeanor. I'm not even sure what happened as far as what the agreement came to be, but I'm pretty sure she had to either take that or go to trial and hope to get out of a felony.

A few days go by and I come home from work, tired, and just say "**** it" and I add her on Facebook. A day or two goes by and she confirms it. Then I'm sitting at work one night, looking at facebook, and the chat screen pops up and it's her. She asks me what I'm doing up so late. She's also at work. We chat for a bit and I find out that her and her boyfriend broke up, but she was still living with him because they thought they could be friends. It wasn't working, but she couldn't find another place to live. She did say she was moving in with her grandma. Then after awhile the internet cuts out and I can't get reconnected.

I come home from work and jump on facebook and send her an email telling her what happened and that whenever things calm down if she wants to hang out, she could let me know, and I gave her my number.

An hour goes by and she emails me back saying it would be great to hang out and she gives me her number.

The next day I email her back with just a few random things about my job and whatnot. She writes back a day or two later and tells me I should text her sometime.

I'm not sure how long I waited, but I texted and we just texted here and there. She works nights at a hospital and it was a slow night for her so I basically stayed up with her and texted her.

Then one day I'm working and I am just driving around with nowhere to go and I just happen to see her pulling into her grandma's house. I pull up and get out and I talk to her grandma for a bit, her dog almost bites me, her and I go out on the porch and talk for a little bit. We make plans to go out on Tuesday (this past Tuesday) and she says we should go out for lunch and I should think about where we want to go. Throughout this conversation though she is telling me how she had trouble sleeping and always has trouble sleeping because she works 12 hour shifts through the night, 3 days a week, and can never sleep regular hours. Before I leave she tells me to text her and if she doesn't respond, then to call her and wake her up, but give her enough time to get ready.

So I am pretty pumped about this and have trouble sleeping because I'm running through my head everything I can think of where to go and what to say so that it's not awkward and **** this up. 11am rolls around and I think that would be too obvious like I'm sitting there watching the clock so I wait a little more. 11:15am she texts me and tells me she isn't feeling good and "wants to see me" but she isn't feeling good, but "we can go tomorrow." Well I had a court hearing that next day and worked from 4pm-midnight so it wasn't going to work. I told her it was alright and we could figure out something else. So whatever, we text throughout the night and that's all we do for a couple days.

Then I see that Dane Cook is going to have a show on Comedy Central on Sunday so I tell her about it and she knew about it and how she wanted to watch it. I ask her if she wants to come over and watch it at my house on our 50" tv and she says "Yeah that would be fun! I'm excited!" Ok cool so she's going to come over on Sunday.

Thursday (this past Thursday) rolls around and again I'm just driving around and happen to see her pulling in. I pull up next to her and she gives me a double glance. I say Hi and we just say a few words and she says how tired she is and how she is going to try and get some sleep. No big deal. I go down the dead-end street and turn around. As I'm driving by, I see a guy in the passenger seat of her car and I know who it is (45ish male). Wow that's weird. During this time, my other girl friend who I was talking to said she was dating this guy, but I didn't believe it...but now I'm wondering if it could be true. And this guy just lives around the corner from me.

I just continue on my way trying to comprehend how a 22 year old could be dating a 45 year old with like 6 kids. I was going to stop up at my house and get something to eat and drink because I was starving, but then I got a call to make a long-distance call so I just drive past my house to go back to the station. I just happen to look up the street and there they are, him and her getting out of her vehicle going to his house.

Later that night I tell her I'm sorry for stopping that I didn't see him in the vehicle and I still don't know how it is working between him and her. She writes back "We had lunch. We are friends. We work together. Does that bother you?" and I say, "No I didn't mean it like that, maybe that sounded wrong." And she asks me what I meant and I ask her if he was the one she was dating, and she says "No! I was dating someone from ********" So I feel like an idiot and she tells me how she would rather me ask than wonder about it.

Throughout the week the text messages became fewer and far between and I was getting the impression that she was putting me off. It was hard to keep a conversation going with someone who comes back with "Alright." or something else stupid that puts an end to the conversation.

Friday night I am texting her while I'm at work and she doesn't write back for awhile. Then she tells me she wasn't ignoring me, but that she was sleeping all day. I make some conversation with her and it's actually a good conversation for once. I tell her if she wants to come over after I'm out of work, we can hang out for a little bit, and she responds with "Won't you be tired?" Well, maybe, but if I get a chance to hang out with her I can deal with it. But I don't tell her that, I just tell her when I get home I'm usually wide awake. Then I tell her it's up to her and she tells me she isn't in town. Ok whatever.

Saturday I don't text her all day because I'm tired of this stupid nonsense. If she's not into it, I'm not going to keep bugging her.

Sunday comes (Today) and I wake up around 1:30pm and text her, "Hey, what's up?" And I get no response. I take a shower, wash my car, play my guitar, whatever just to pass the time. I'm also having dinner with my grandma and uncle who came up to visit from Maryland at 5:30 so I'm just trying not to be bored. 5:30pm and I go over to my grandma's which is only like 4 houses down. 5:41pm she texts me about how she is having a bad day and is going to lay down for a little bit. I say "May I ask why?" and she says "Family issues, sometimes I wish I could just move and not have to deal with it." I tell her if she wants to come over earlier tonight, we can hang out and maybe it'll get her mind off of it. She tells me she is going to take a nap for a little while. "Alright, well get ahold of me later, I won't be busy." I eat dinner, talk with my family, 9:30pm rolls around and I go home just to get myself settled in. 10pm and I'm watching Dane Cook. 11:42pm right now and I still haven't heard from her.

I'm eagerly anticipating her texting me how sorry she is and how she didn't wake up. And I'm going to tell her that if she wants to hang out she can let me know and I'll be there, but I'm not going to chase her around. And I'm not going to text her anymore until she decides to make an effort.

I'm feeling like she's a little shady. When we first started talking I found out that we have a lot in common. If she would have been into it, I'm pretty sure we would have gotten along really well. Yeah you guys are going to rip into me, but this is like one of those times that just felt like it was too good to be true. I had pretty high hopes for this. I knew she was dating someone from what her grandma was saying, but then I find out they broke up. I give her my number and ask her to hang out, she gives me hers and she tells me to text her. Then it started dieing out throughout the week and her excuse is always about how tired she is and blah blah blah. I really don't know where she sleeps at night because I work at night and I never see her vehicle at her grandma's house late at night when she's not working. And she's not up at the guy's house who is right around the corner from me. I'm just having a hard time figuring her out and whether it is worth it to put it on her to make a move or let things pass and continue to try and see where this goes. Maybe she is telling me the truth about everything and it has just been bad timing, but it's not sitting well with me feeling like she is avoiding me and putting me off. My ex-g/f did that to me and I'm not going to put up with that again.

Last edited by ItalianFX; 05-18-2009 at 12:17 AM.
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05-17-2009 , 11:50 PM
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05-18-2009 , 12:00 AM
I forgot to add....

After the Penguins won their next round I asked her if she liked hockey and she said she did so I asked her if she wanted to go to a game if I could get tickets and not to worry about the cost. She said that would be fun.

Then the day that the tickets are going to be sold, I wake up early because we were getting new flooring put in our bathroom and it sounded like a train coming through my wall. I look and the tickets are going to be sold at 10:00am. I text her to see if she is up and she was, but she was laying in bed. I ask her if she is still interested and she doesn't text me back. Like at 2:30pm she texts me and tells me how she passed out and fell asleep. I didn't order the tickets.
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05-18-2009 , 12:00 AM
maybe you shouldn't have driven by her grandma's house 50 times a day so you could "just happen" to be there when she was pulling in

Last edited by Phildo; 05-18-2009 at 12:01 AM. Reason: pony is slow :(
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05-18-2009 , 12:02 AM
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Originally Posted by edfurlong
Cliffs notes are pretty much that he drives by her house more than some people would deem necessary.
I knew someone was going to say something like that. It just so happens that her grandma lives on a street that intersects a major route going on the side of town that pretty much takes us in two directions that we go to often.
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05-18-2009 , 12:08 AM
She does heroin.
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05-18-2009 , 12:11 AM
well OP i give praise for your efforts. sounds like shes more trouble than shes worth.

i also think its funny that cops always call cars vehicles
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05-18-2009 , 12:12 AM
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well OP i give praise for your efforts. sounds like shes more trouble than shes worth.

i also think its funny that cops always call cars vehicles
Well I was going to call it a car, but it's more like an SUV, but I don't really like using SUV continually in a sentence so if I say car, you may think of a car when really it's an SUV. haha
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05-18-2009 , 12:15 AM
Stop texting her so much, you look desperate. Stop texting her period. Wait for her. Ignore her for a day or two after the first text.
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05-18-2009 , 12:16 AM
it's pretty obvious that she was intimidated because you're both a cop and a creepy stalker so she didn't want to say no.

just leave the poor girl alone.
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05-18-2009 , 12:37 AM
Sounds like she either isn't interested or is one of those girls who is way more trouble than she is worth.

Interesting read though keep us updated.
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05-18-2009 , 01:18 AM
i dont know whats more pathetic, your actions or finding dane cook humorous.
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05-18-2009 , 01:23 AM
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05-18-2009 , 01:38 AM
she is crazy but prob not any most than most girls

DO NOT CALL/TEXT/OR EMAIL FOR ONE FULL WEEK

she will then be crazy for you and reinitiate contact. then you can say something like "I really only have time to associate with people who are straight up so if you want to hang out be at my house tomorrow night and we can watch a movie or something, otherwise it's probably better if we didn't talk anymore". goddamnit you are a cop smack her around a little.

then she comes over you watch movie for 10 min she blows you and you freely violate her in multiple holes

yea and also siihp and also don't marry her
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05-18-2009 , 02:08 AM
1:05AM - she texts me asking me why I didn't get ahold of her.

I rhetorically asked her "I thought you would get ahold of me after you got up?"

Then she said she slept longer than she wanted, but thought I would get ahold of her first, which I said I didn't know what was going on and didn't want to be annoying like I was checking up on her. She said she would never think that. I told her she could come over now, but she said she has to get up early to do some things with her grandma.

Then she told me about her bad day, which was her finding out that her brother had to stay in jail longer than he was supposed to because he didn't go back to jail after a work release. He got put in jail for being caught with drug paraphernalia and admitted in court that it was all of his and none of it belonged to his girlfriend. (He is just trying to keep her out of jail)

I told her I want to hang out with her outside of work so that she can actually see me in regular clothes for once and she said she does want to hang out with me outside of work she has just had a lot going on. So it seems like it has just been bad timing. But now she cut it short to go to sleep. I told her to let me know when is good for her and I'll make it happen. I'll take a day off of work if I have to. I still get paid anyways.

And Yes, I do find Dane Cook funny....and so does she.
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05-18-2009 , 02:13 AM
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I told her I want to hang out with her outside of work so that she can actually see me in regular clothes for once and she said she does want to hang out with me outside of work she has just had a lot going on. So it seems like it has just been bad timing. But now she cut it short to go to sleep. I told her to let me know when is good for her and I'll make it happen. I'll take a day off of work if I have to. I still get paid anyways.
DUDE WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU?

A) its not gonna happen
B) if it does there is something wrong with this chick anyways. all she does is ****ing sleep.
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05-18-2009 , 02:18 AM
Seek psychiatric help, seriously.
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05-18-2009 , 02:19 AM
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05-18-2009 , 02:26 AM
IFX-

one thing, dont let the negative responses (mine included, i am guilty) stop you from giving us updates. if this ends up going somewhere its you responsibility to show that sometimes perseverance pays off.
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05-18-2009 , 02:31 AM
Yeah this is like reading a more boring and lamer AlanDyer thread basically
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05-18-2009 , 02:58 AM
Speaking as a man who understands such a situation all too well (too lazy to find my thread in SL), I wish you the very best of luck.
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05-18-2009 , 03:03 AM
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Friday night I am texting her while I'm at work and she doesn't write back for awhile. Then she tells me she wasn't ignoring me, but that she was sleeping all day. I make some conversation with her and it's actually a good conversation for once. I tell her if she wants to come over after I'm out of work, we can hang out for a little bit, and she responds with "Won't you be tired?" Well, maybe, but if I get a chance to hang out with her I can deal with it. But I don't tell her that, I just tell her all right, I'm gonna call you, or else I won't respect myself tomorrow morning.
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