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Originally Posted by Forces Rushing
Yes, shill, sorry I am quite famous, and cannot post publicly...
I am in my 30's...I dated this women when we were young teenagers, we shared so many 1st's together, yes, everything, we went through so many tough things together.
After 5 years, I was young, and not ready to get married. She also did not approve of my "hobby" despite making 2x as much as her father. We broke up and moved on. She became a lawyer, I became a pro gambler. Luckily I was smart enough to buy some real estate. I have money now, but still use it to invest, gamble.
"It would not last" "It's gambling" etc... in any case years after we broke up we still kept in touch, but we never talked about each others love life, we just don't ask.
We talk almost every week. We can't be together, but we cannot be friends. It's just too hard to see each other with someone else. Anytime thou not related to relationships we are there for each other. It is really a weird "friendship/loveship"
The ball has always been in her court. She broke up with me. She loves me, but not as much as I love her. Her parents are really conservative and beat it in her head a husband has to be a provider, not just someone you love.
For me, it's only about Love.
So last night her boyfriend of 3 years proposed. She said yes. He works at a bank as a manager and makes a good salary, but a lot less than me, especially after taxes.
So I am crushed, I always thought we could eventually get back together. I just can't work at an office to please her conscience (or her parents).
I now have to seriously face the fact I will marry someone i will never love as much as her. It really hurts.
Tonight it's a bottle of scotch (single malt) and some chips. Maybe pizza.
I am wondering now if I made a mistake. If I should sacrifice my happiness just to be with her.
What do you think OOT?
OP
I think you need to let her go completely. You should quit her cold turkey. It's gonna be depressing and make you upset for a little while, you just need to not ever talk or communicate with her ever again. no emails, no texts, nothing, delete her from your facebook, erase her number from your phone, you can't be reminded by someone like that.
Let me tell you something. Love is a 2 way street. She HAS to love you as much as you love her , otherwise it will never work. One person can't be more infatuated with the other.
Another thing. Chances are you think you love her and probably actually do, but then if you married her, there's a good chance that it will never work anyways. Take comfort in that. Most marriages DONT work. Most people fight a lot and take a lot of **** from each other.
It's much better off that you are not with her. She will aggravate you for the rest of her life with her opinions and her father's opinions. Do you want that for yourself ? Do you want someone to barrage you all the time with their BS ? You sound like a real MAN so act like one and dont act like such a pussy. Love exists but this is real life not the movies man.
If you were my friend in real life, I'd tell you to ditch the girl, and focus on partying for a bit, go meet some horny single chicks, there's plenty of those, go bang a bit and take a few months to live. Then you can go settle down with another girl just like this one. They exist.
Relax take it easy, don't let a girl stress you out, there's bigger problems in life.
Wish you well