was thinking this as well

also, how many twitter followers do u have? that will give us a tool to see how famous you are?

Set some of that money on fire, maybe that will keep you warm.

you are "Edwin"?
just blink 2 times if yes, no one will notice.

The good news is if she has already been dating the guy for 3 years then the hot sex they must be having round the clock will start to get stale in a decade or so. That will be your time to pounce. Right now is lying in the weeds time; are you all caught up on Mad Men?

Sorry bro, some people don't want to hitch their life's wagon to a gambler. Just because you have some "fat stacks" doesn't mean that she doesn't want to be with someone with a solid career, insurance/benefits, a resume, stability, etc. You might think she is a sell out or whatever, but a lot of people just don't want to ride the inevitable rollercoaster of being with a gambler. Because face it, it can dry up any day.

Sounds like you have diversified yourself and are probably in a better spot than most, but your thinly veiled claims of tax fraud lead folks to think that you probably aren't 100% on the up-and-up. And if we sense that, rest assured that someone you know intimately senses it too.

You'll need a special co-pilot to get through life with, if that is what you are after. There will be someone out there who is willing to ride that ride though, and drinking yourself to death certainly isn't the answer. But, pain is pain, and knowing that this too shall pass won't help for right now. Just hang in there, and if you really love this girl, don't trainwreck her life by trying to break up her happy engagement.

Truth of the matter is get over her. I had an on and off girlfriend who I thought I was in love with for late high school and most of college. Luckily still had my phone but definitely held me back in many ways. Stopped answering her calls right before graduating and was the best decision I have ever made.

Had a great 2 years single in NYC and now have a GF who bets the old girl to shame. The whole thing is mental in thinking you were meant to be together. That thinking is never good, the sooner you move on, block any form of updates (FB, etc.) the better. Talking to her once a week while she has had a boyfriend wasn't a good idea for either of you.

Chicks are the NUT LOW rite guys hahahaha

FYP

i've been in a similar situation, this is the best outcome for you.

alobar spot on in this thread, imo

OP's only dilemma is choosing whether or not to makes the changes she wants him to make. I imagine OP slamming the church doors open on her wedding day and nodding once at her.

l_b_r + metaname dream team comedy alliance ITT imo

OP is giving off serious

Ya. Poker players dont have the greatest self-awareness either.

You'd be misrepresenting the truth.
Sounds like a lousy way to start a relationship.

I wouldn't blow my load and become a banker to appease one girl, but he would definitely benefit by getting some kind of accreditation so that he can define himself by something other than poker player.

Find a service that compliments your academic background, get the certification, market yourself to people in your extended social network and find ways to improve the lives of the people around you. Obviously you're doing it to be liked, but it doesn't have to be that much of a chore.

The great thing about being financially stable is that you don't have to care that much about money. And you'd probably have a lot more fun learning new skills and being social than grinding another million hands of poker.

It's pretty tough to bear this kinda ****. The fact that you know the love is there, and you're losing her not for a lack of it, makes it worse.

I can relate very well to this and I can say that, as long as you remain single, you will probably let it eat you up. I think it would be quite daft though to consider her as the only one for you. The best way to get over it is to find someone better; and there are better women. There is always someone better.

If you think though that there's any chance deep down she wants to be with you, don't let her get married without making some extraordinary effort to get her. At least then you'll know you did everything before moving on rather than wondering what if.

Lol this. Wtf? Just realised you're doing shots. I facepalm every time I see people doing shots of whisky.

Spot of water, man. Enjoy it. Savour it. Enjoy it some more.

And no ice, you hear?

be glad you aren't with her. she values the opinions of others about her life more than her own. Recognize that you should be with someone who can accept who you are as a person. She isn't that person so stop putting her on a pedestal.

Are you sure money was the issue?

I was in a similar situation, but I guarantee no matter how much money I may have made, having "gambling" as my primary source of income would not have worked with my girl, her family, or my family.

So I stayed in school, got a 9-5, eventually got married (to her), started a family and live a life of quiet upper middle class desperation, making WAY less (in the short term at least).

At first, I thought I would really miss my freedom, but after a while you get used to what you are doing and things are ok, and you get used to waking up at 6 am and going to bed at 10 pm and only having a couple hours (at most) to do what you actually want to be doing a week.

This probably isn't helping you at all OP, but it is the truth.

I was reading this and thinking, "Pretty good post, which chick is thi.....Oh, okay."

I am only now discovering who all the female posters are on here but even I knew knivesout was GOS.

Money isn't everything.
Gambling money in a non-gambler's eyes will never be secure winnings.
Get over her and rethink how you think things.

OP, How many girls have you been with and/or slept with since the breakup?