Second of all, she clearly doesn't want to be with you, and is using your profession as the reason. But she probably just doesn't like you that way anymore and is looking for any excuse/reason to give you. If she did have feelings for you, she wouldn't care what your profession is as long as you are bringing in enough money.

I am not a drinker. I just got it for Christmas.

I don't think either of these words mean what you think they mean

prolly the most valuable thing ive learned while wasting the better part of a decade racking up 28,000 posts on an internet message board is that all that strange **** I think that I wonder if anyone else thinks, or those thoughts I have that I think separate me from the "average" person, everyone else thinks as well.


lol

No matter how perfect she seems to be. No matter how much she fits every single one of your criteria for a perfect soul mate. If she doesn't care about you equally, she is not the one for you.

Tell her? Even if she knows. Tell her not to marry the dude and that she's making a mistake. Don't beg, just tell her she'd be happier with you.

If it doesn't work, have a cry and move on.

What is the meaning of this? Are you Mitt Romney, or do you evade taxes?

Consider yourself lucky that you did not get married in your early to mid 20's, because you would likely be divorced by now, possibly with kids. Get a serious girlfriend, and break off contact with the ex. 10 years from now, you will not think of her very often, but you will think of where you will retire with your (younger) wife.

OOT is providing some very mature advice ITT, so I'll just go ahead and counteract that by saying please post some pictures of this hottie.

same situation , I still see her from time to time , even though its slowly killing me . moving on is the best , sadly it will affect all other aspects of your life (poker, investing etc), so tread carefully , and find someone who could approximate the feelings/elation she made you feel when together.

im quite confident each shot you took had a drop of lsd in it.

the day a poker player pays all their taxes is the day hell freezes over.

Alobar is absolutely crushing this thread with great advice.

just another idiot who thinks he's special. obviously not when he becomes an emo loser over a girl. and needs to hide.

I thought this forum had enough of these crap posts. out the main account.

You've known all along the man you needed to be to marry this girl. If your feelings for her were that strong, why not suck it up and be Steady Corporate Guy?

It sounds to me like you've made good life choices; I'm guessing you made pretty big money in the early poker boom, and are now making that capital work for you.

Try and treat the engagement as closure. There's a woman out there who can not just love you, but also respect and admire what you've achieved. Go find her!

This is sad and pathetic.
Have you ever had a normal relationship with a woman?
People aren't perfect and the way you idolize and scorn this woman is confusing.
She couldn't accept your lifestyle, you don't want to change your lifestyle, so it's her fault?
Grow up.
Yes it hurts but if either of you are not willing to make changes for each other...
That's not love.

Subconsciously, you agree with the girl regarding her inside the box conservative thinking, or you wouldn't still feel this attached to her. There is something within you that is still in contradiction regarding your choices, or you would have disregarded her convention long ago, and would view being tied to her an as anchor, rather than as something to be desired.

If you were comfortable in your decisions, her moving on wouldn't bother you at all. You've been programmed, just as she has. You just have shrugged off enough convention to continue playing because the logic and probability has made a compelling argument to your rational brain that continuing makes sense, but you're still programmed, or you wouldn't long for a mundane girl.

In Alobar's case, it sounds like his girl went much farther to continue the relationship, until her mother upped the ante. With your story, the girl herself doesn't seem to even want to shrug off her simplistic thinking.

All you can do at this point is embrace it as motivation. Strive to succeed to a level that an ordinary guy could never compete with. It won't get her, but you'll have the satisfaction that she knows, and her parent's know, that you were always right.

That, or become a slave to a cubicle and try and woo her back, only to realize what a small prize she really was.

absolutely dont pine over her. really if she couldnt accept what you do she is not worth it. just move on. you have a ton of life ahead and you have set yourself up to live a life most will only dream about.

being in a long term relationship requires sacrifices made by both parties. Clearly your choice of profession is something neither of you is willing to make concessions on, so unfortunately its not meant to be.

The only odd thing from your post is how you claim that all you care about is LOVE, yet point out how much money you make and how much more successful you are then her soon-to-be husband. If LOVE is all you care about you could always take on a "regular" job (like be a part time real estate agent) and continue to make investments/play poker on the side and perhaps make less money, but at least you would be with the person you claim to LOVE. Obviously you decided that your pride, money, comfort, freedom, etc is more important than being with this woman, which is your right, but don't act like you never had a (somewhat reasonable) option to pursue that would have landed you with this woman.

Worry not, in a few months you'll get over it and start meeting other, younger, hotter, and shallower women who will love you for your big bank account and won't care what you do for a living!

Then you've already known for a long time that she's not the right woman for you. Move on.

Wait on the sidelines for her, there's a 50/50 chance she gets divorced and the first marriage is practice anyway. Just make sure youre there to be the rebound guy and make sure to throw in a few "I told you so's" when he takes half of her **** and shes paying alimony to him.

Let's look at a few facts here. Your ex-gf takes her life cues from her mother. Awesome! She's judgemental and looks down on you. Fantastic! She's the type of person who would date a banker. Sweet!

Sounds like you're better off without her, imo.

Wake the **** up.

You want to be with her. She doesn't want to be with you. That's it. That's the whole story. All this other crap you've concocted in your head is utter bull****.

Poker is just the wedge she is using to distance herself. Her insecurities and reservations about poker and her parents' opinions are not the real reasons she isn't with you right now. You are just choosing to believe that because you don't want to accept the painful truth that she's just not that into you.

Sorry, but it happens. And as long as you keep deluding yourself, you are never going to be able to move on.

holy **** lol

hahaha

Nice.

Am I following correctly here? She broke up with you...ten ****ing years ago? Seriously?

I know I saw some people earlier say that you should break off contact and should have years ago. But I just want to emphasize that we're talking about a large number of years ago where you should have ceased and desisted. Seen plenty of guys hold a torch for a year or two, but Jesus man wtf is wrong with you?

It's called puppy love. There's nothing for it but to cut her off like a gangrenous appendage.

And am I the only one who thinks gf's mom attempting suicide is hilarious? Such a wonderful opportunity to show up and trollface in the hospital room. No offense, Alobar.

This.

Also, how much did / do you make at poker? If you're invested wisely enough you could always say your job is in real estate and that you play poker for a hobby.