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Originally Posted by Forces Rushing
My point about the money is her contradiction. She wants a good paying job to support a family, yet for 11 years I have cleared more every year then her boyfriend. I have property, investments, lots of liquidity, I have shown her, but she believes it could end anytime.
I have not gotten this far by putting all my eggs in one basket. I have multiple sources of income, but to her a corporate job or being paid by a company rather then yourself is more "stable".
I do think she is being very judgmental and taking advice from her parents rather then me, and this is why I never dropped everything for her. I don't think it's right for your partner to ask you to sacrifice your happiness (which primarily is freedom) to adhere to her insecurities over my presumed eventual financial collapse.
I went through the exact same thing. The girls mom even attempted suicide because her daughter was dating such a pathetic loser as myself. Didnt matter how much I made or how much logic I used or whatever. Some people just dont get it.
Thats one of the drawbacks of making your living the way you do, you just have to accept that there are people out there who just wont ever get it, no matter what because there is such a stigma attached to it. Its like trying to convince a religious person God doesnt exist, it just aint gunna happen.
You made your choice, and she made hers. Dont maryter yourself.
You obviously understand odds and probabilities, you really think out of the 3 billion or so woman on the planet there arent any who are a better match for you than her? You just have a lot invested in her, and a huge part of your identity tied up in it because she was the one you were with when you first felt so many different powerful emotions. But thats how everyone is with their first love, and thats why so many people end up divorced cuz they married their first love even tho they knew it wouldnt work, because of all those intense feelings. I mean just look at OOT, how many threads are started by 25 year old guys whove been in a relationship for 6 years, and its completely obvious to everyone whos been there done that, that the relationship should have ended about 4 years ago and that the OP needs to move on. You should be thankful she had what it took to actually not marry you even tho she doesnt agree with your lifestyle, cuz youd have just ended up as another statistic.