OP is clearly not funny at all. So him being "too funny" could be a cue.

She legitimately could be attracted to you and is flirting with you, just because someone is in a relationship does not mean they stop being attracted to other people.

She is in a relationship though, one which is non casual and has advanced to a stage of real commitment. Its not impossible she would reject an advance from you but its a tiny probability when weighed against the chances she will reject it leading to horrible awkwardness.

The thing you have to focus on is that the experience you are having with this women are not unique to her. Its an absolute reality that there are many women you can have the same sense of attraction and connection to, and if you want to find another one its a simple numbers game.

You just have to meet more women, speaking as an OLD, you are a lucky luck lucky super jammy lucky bastard, as this has never evaaaar been easier to do.

I was just on the other side of something eerily similar to this.

I guess sometimes it works. I would never do it but there is a nonzero chance it works.

It is very situational.

The real test will be tomorrow when she looks at him with that I want to **** you on this table right now sparkle in her eye.

Maybe take this situation as a wake-up call to improve your social life.
Like others have stated, it's very possible that you'll find someone you're equally attracted to. It's also not going to get easier to build a social circle once you get older.

It's too much to suppose that the fiancee is from Atlanta.

Well at least OP has enough common sense to ask other people for advice and actually follow it.
I remember being in a very similar situation in my early 20s, but unlike OP I knew the time to make a move was at a Xmas party. Fortunately, I was drunk and Russian, so people already assumed that most social norms didn't apply to me. She worked at a different department too, and I was able to escape with my dignity mostly intact aside from a few friendly barbs from my IT buddies in the next couple of days.
So, yeah, don't be a creep, OP.

Many young hot girls at my last job had my phone number. Do you think they were all looking to date me?

Depends. Are you managing a strip club?

to you she is the one hot girl who has your number

to her you are a work contact

Think about this...

What kind of beta are you OP? From what you've written there defiantly seems to be a special connection between you, this could be your one shot at true love. Don't waste it by being scared, noone remembers a coward.

Elaborate imo

He works at an university, IIRC.

Same thing.

Did they have a sparkle in their eye when they looked at you? Did they call you a genius?

If yes, you missed out!

I AM NOT DIDS!!!

Here's some advice from someone who's been around the block a few times;

If you meet an actual single girl who likes you I can pretty much guarantee you'll forget all about the girl in the OP in about 9 minutes flat. Maybe less.

Like Dids says,

Just because she has your # does not mean she wants your D.

Offer to take her to lunch for a super bacon cheeseburger. If she accepts, run far far away.

FWIW - Yes, she may like you. She obv thinks you're funny and smart, which are 2 big factors for women. No, I don't think she's giving compliments to get you to do her work, because come on, you'd do what she needed regardless, right? That being said, so what?

You can't make a "physical" move because a.) that would be creepy for her and b.) you work with her.

You surely could say something subtle, like what's been suggested before "If you weren't engaged, I'd love to take you out..." which would send her a message about your feelings which is good, but then what? Such a statement wouldn't end her engagement. Blah.

But here are the take aways:

1. I do think she likes you and if she likes you, that means other women will too once they get to know you, like she did.

2. Unrequited feelings have a bad rep. Even if they go no where, you got to HAVE those feelings about someone and they're nice to feel.

3. In the end, to the brave go the spoils.

Frame her fiance for murder, or hire a hitman.

if you have any social skills at all the clear play is to actually do stuff outside of the office together and be known to her attractive single friends as the cool guy from work

Ya, like go shopping, get your nails done, maybe go to a yoga class or two with her and her girlfriends. You'll land one of those girls in no time!

Or as a friend of mine once said when I asked him about the odds of hooking up with a girl who had a man:

Him: Well, do you ever watch soccer?

Me: Uh, yes.

Him: And they have goalies, right?

Me: Yes, but...?

Him: But they still score, right?

OP, you also need to consider that even if you land this girl then you're pretty much stuck with her


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