dude

maybe you're funny and good at your job hence the comments and work related stuff.

it sounds like you're overanylzing everything she says. i've done it myself with someone i was really into. they say x and i'd think way too much into it where if it was some girl i didn't give two ****s about saying the exact same thing i wouldn't even give it a second thought.

Bolded makes a big difference imo. Definitely a signal but don't seem too eager - maybe just start by texting her a dick pic and see where that goes.

You are misreading the situation

you are in dire need of the red pill OP

It sounds like she is a good employee. She has good social skills and is able to compliment people so they feel good about themselves. Being nice to you and giving you compliments doesn't mean she is attracted to you and even if she is attracted to you that doesn't mean she will necessarily want to leave her fiancee for you. Personally I think you should leave her be.

I've been in your spot. Maybe something was possible. You didn't act, and now it's too late. Move on.

Hint: women rarely respond well to guys who wait 18 months to make their move.

Her: face = 9/10 body= 8/10

Me: face = 6/10, body= 8/10 (though now that I think of it, I really have no idea what others would rate me...never have sought feedback I guess I never had much interest in knowing)

I'd also say I'm slightly brighter than her but she's got slightly better social skills than me.

I guess I just need to move on...it's just SO annoying that this had to have happened right after she got engaged...incredibly unlucky timing. I think she only started dating the guy in around Spring of last year. And from my POV at that time, she was just another random co-worker who I had no real interest outside of just doing work tasks together.

attractive engaged woman has "slightly better social skills" than guy who asks for advice on the internet about pursuing engaged co-worker

Aspergers for sure, wow.

Exactly what do you think has happened?

The only thing I see here is you made up a fairy tale about a girl that in reality won't ever happen. Subconsciously you know nothing will ever happen so it's a safe fantasy.

Never fall for a girl you haven't slept with (preferably more than once) -- she might have bad toilet hygiene or something.

Stop being such a cuck. Why would you go after a woman who doesn't want you?

LOOOOOOOOOL
Dude, wtf do you think happened that all of a sudden leads you to believe that you suddenly have a chance with her?

On top of the myriad of advice you've gotten already...

You have a big boy job. Don't date co-workers if you have a big boy job.

OP,

What attributes (or lack thereof) of her face and body makes her a 9 and 8 respectively?

what are the chances op is actually an 8?

If she likes you and wants a way out, the seed is enough. It'll grow.

Still. You sound like a catch, imo. Meet more people. You won't be young (and hence the girls you can date, hot and fresh and happy and hopeful and uncluttered), forever.

Just know its this exact post that made me 50/50 on you being a troll. So if you're a real person... Yikes!

Given that social skills are much more important than looks in a situation like this, higher than you think.

You're probably right...when I made this thread I was sort of in a panic. Late last week I had the sudden realization that I liked her, then instantly remembered she's engaged. Then looked back at all those "signs" I mentioned, which at the time they happened I thought nothing of them, wondering in retrospect and taken as a whole if they meant anything...but probably not, I think she just really respects me as a co-worker and thinks I'm competent....

...though why would she ask me for my personal phone number? I never have to work off-hours and am not expected to have to handle anything on my off hours. And during my work hours, I've got a separate land-line phone and am always available by instant message (AIM messenger-like thing)...so I'm still not sure that these signs are completely meaningless, but I'm definitely going w/ the "do nothing" option. The pain of realizing that it's too late for me to make a move didn't last long luckily, just a slight sting lasting a few hours but I'm over it now .

I'm waiting for him to do the opposite of the advice in the thread, and report back.

Just in case anyone missed it, OP is following the advice given in the thread.

Whats with all these people making the correct move lately? Really letting OOT down.