And we're back in Texas.

Kinda disappointed OP isnt in here arguing with everyone about how they are wrong. That's what you are supposed to do in OOT when you ask for advice

Also pretty sure nobody ever would have thought that someone actually needs to ask for advice in this situation, yet here we are...

OP,

If she had proposed to him, yeah, you'd be done, but he proposed to her.. This ain't over. I'm saying there's a chance, and if there's a chance; You're all gonna die. The only question is how you check out. Do you want it on your feet? Or on your ****in' knees... begging? I ain't much for begging! Nobody ever gave me nothing! So I say **** that thing! Let's fight it!


Are you just going to take it, on your knees, begging, like these betas? Or you going to fight for what's yours? In five years one of you will be a doting father and happy family man on the rise at work, the other a homeless scratch off ticket degenerate covered in lice and feces. Decide now!

This is an interesting read and you could be right, these things could mean she is 'drawn' to you.

I'm going to go way out on a limb though and suggest a crazy alternative.

Maybe they mean she thinks you are smart and thinks there are processes at work that you understand better than anyone within different departments/teams?


On the off chance this isn't a 'The Office' related troll, don't do anything. Start going out and meeting more women and you will realise that there are thousands of girls with the 'right personality' for you.

Propose to her at work on Monday.

even if she was actually into you and not engaged to someone else, it's a bad idea to get involved with people you work with

get a social life and/or do the online thing and start dating women who are into you and not co-workers

Patriots overcame a 25 point deficit to win the SB, just sayin'.

OP,

Nah, she'll propose when she's ready...that way nobody mistakes that she's not that into him.

I recently saw a relationship form where someone left their fiance to avoid a likely bad marriage. So far the new relationship is going well and the engaged person probably dodged a bullet.

The situation gave me a lot to think about. I wanted to judge the girl for leaving her fiance but i realized I have no idea whats going on in her head or the full complexity of the relationship with her fiance. I'm in no position to judge and think ending an engagement or pursuing someone engaged is fair game.

however, in your situation, I'm gonna agree with everyone else's advice in this thread. you should "give her up". most advice is pretty spot on imo and I don't have much to add

OP does your office have a Stamford branch? If so, you can profess your love then just transfer to Stamford if/when it doesn't turn out well.

Thanks for the well thought advice. You're right, I haven't had those ego-stroking compliments from a lot of girls. In fact, I really haven't been with or met a ton of girls. I don't have the greatest social life unfortunately...it's slowly deteriorated since high school due to over-focusing on college and work, but I'm looking to change that. I'm not totally unhappy though as I get satisfaction from other things in life. I like that she is similar to me though and is very non-judgmental.

And I think you're right, the aggressive move would probably be disastrous. If I did do it though, the best way would probably be put in my two week notice and then make that move on my last day. That way, I'd be in the clear if it didn't work.

Now that I've had another day to think about it though, I think the best option is to make the suggestion as subtly as possible like you said and then just continue to have good rapport w/ her, no different from how things were all of last year. I mean...even if I know I can't get her as a girlfriend, I guess I can still be friendly w/ her. After all, she's been friendly w/ me even after getting engaged.

Serious or no?

Additional Info: Her compliments alone aren't why I think she's at least somewhat attracted to me. It's hard to explain, but whenever she looks at me, she's got this sparkle in her eyes and I don't quite get the same vibe from other people.

She's also said I'm "too funny" on a few occasions after I make a sarcastic comment.

She is also the only co-worker who has asked for my personal phone # and has texted me a few times since. However, all the texts have been something along the lines of "Hey! You going to be able to attend the meeting in 10 min?" if it looks like I'm running late at arriving to work.

If it weren't for some of these "signs", I would no zero thought of pursuing her and wouldn't have posted this thread.

On the other hand, it's possible I'm misreading the situation and all of these are meaningless...maybe she's just like this w/ all her close co-workers. After all, the team we are on is pretty small and usually collaborates a lot.

Has she ever thrown candy at you?

I think you're conflating a friendly work relationship for a friendly personal relationship. She's living with a guy and they are engaged, and you think she's going to dump him and move out to give you a go for dinner?

If you do decide to drop a subtle hint (which you shouldn't), realize that, regardless of how she feels, she will ignore it (unless she's completely miserable or slooty), so don't keep dropping more hints to "make sure" she got the initial suggestion.

'Too funny', 'Genius', etc. are buzzword compliments. Notice how they are generic as all hell yet aim to influence your emotions. (In this case, she wants you to feel good and happy, because as a co-worker, she's fulfilling an implicit organizational duty.)

Have you ever caught her staring at you when you weren't looking?

Yeah, quitting your job over a 1% chance of dating her is definitely the way to go.

She could be a flunky, too. If I recall correctly, OP hasn't stated whether she rocks her job or not but only that she's career-focused and constantly asks him for work-related assistance.

Threads needs pics, so we can gauge hotness differential.

At very least...
Op, where do you rank yourself and her on face and body. 1-10.

There's also a genuine chance that she is buttering OP up to get him to help her with her work because he is actually good at his job.

Literally every girl in the English speaking world says this. If you think this is a signal she is sending you then you are really do lack in social skills.