after 10 pages why was i the only one to point out that since she has made absolutely no serious move on him ( like actually text him out of the blue to "hang out" in the past year or so, that he should just move on?

if she even remotely liked him she would have made a move before him according to what hes all said

Pleasure,

Maybe she's shy.

" Nice haircut", tho....she obviously wants the D

Where did the other 7 pages go?

Realistically his best case scenario is that she's dtf, but she's not leaving Mr. Fiancée and his sweet morning sex.

Dude should get to business while there's business to be had you're: young, good looking (supposedly), and doing decently financially; get out there!

some people like the added suspense a thread gets if you have to turn the page every other post

The being engaged part generally makes girls shy about approaching other guys.

Doesn't rule out her interest, but does require more effort on OPs part.

Never gets old

Bump

Isn't there a question at the wedding intended for this exact situation?

She's not into you, she doesn't want your dick, and FFS, she's not going to leave her fiance for you. Wake the **** up.

She's being a good co-worker, she's not your friend. She doesn't actually care about you. Be Machiavellian with her. Use her for work favors and build credit towards her owing you work favors. Use her position at work to make your work life easier.

If there was a promotion up for grabs and she had to compete with you, believe you me, she would do a 180 so fast you'd be making another thread about how depressed you are and how you want to kill yourself because the one girl you felt a connection with stabbed you in the back and it went through your heart.

She's playing office politics well and she's found a potential lackey in you. All of her flirtations are simply her testing you out to see if she can manipulate you. It really is that simple. If you ignored her flirtations the first couple of times, then she would have stopped them outright, tried other methods, or would have started ignoring you completely.

Do not listen to this!! She's an 8 out of 10 tops remember? The new plan is the right plan.

Bump

Cause I said he should at least do a few reps a day to get into the top half of all men his age?

Look, if women could do simple daily exercises to make their breasts bigger then wouldn't they be well advised to do them if they want to find men?

Well swap "women" and "men" around and replace "breasts" with "muscles".

The goal in life is to build a kingdom. The greatest land ain't worth **** without a queen to rule it. If you're certain you've found her, and you don't act on it, why are you even alive?

I may be optimistic but, since not hearing from OP in a while, I am assuming he is balls deep in his co-worker.
Or he has made a shrine of her in the back of his closet. A full scale model of her made from her used chewing gum.


I'm leaning #2

Hey Ben, has she shown anymore signs of doubts?

Update half a year later:

Nothing has changed as far as me doing anything or taking any action. I really did read the advice in this thread and came to the same conclusion as many posters, that it's a bad idea to pursue an engaged girl and to just give it up.

However, I've learned of some important new information very recently. Even with this new info, I STILL think it's best for me to do nothing because of the single fact that she's still engaged and is still planning to get married in approximately 1-2 months. Here's the new info...

1. The guy she's with is NOT actually richer than me or owns his own house. The guy actually lives with his family in a house, and she has commented "I'm going to be broke for this wedding..costs are so high". Previously, I only knew she moved in with the guy and lives in a house, so I incorrectly assumed the guy owned a house and therefore made more $ than me (I can't afford a house).

2. By far the most important info, and THE only reason I'm reviving this thread. I have overheard her expressing doubts about the guy and the wedding, on at least 3 different occasions spread over time. One of her friends asked her how long she was dating the guy before he proposed, and she said "you don't want to know" but then answered ~half a year. She soon commented that she wonders how "committed he is" to her. Her conversation continued, and again I was just overhearing it and didn't catch all of it but did catch her making a comment that included "...I figured I could just give back the ring...". I didn't catch the entire sentence. I am NOT a stalker btw, this was just a conversation I overheard a few cubicles away while I was going about my normal work. I have also heard her comment that the wedding planning and all is so much work its almost not worth it.

3. She once asked me if I want to get married, not to her or anyone in particular, it was just a general question. I'm 99.999% sure it is meaningless, and the question just came up while she was talking about some wedding prep and while I was telling her about about my sister's wedding later this year.

4. I have confirmed that some of the comments she made to me before that I thought might have been flirting (i.e. signs of interest) were actually meaningless, because she's made the same comments to others including my male boss and some female coworkers.

Please don't go on a mass-shooting rampage.

Now's the perfect time to pounce. She's having doubts about the wedding and is looking for away out.

Serious or no?? I remember when I made this thread, like half the responses were not serious...typically the ones w/ more than 1 or 2 sentences were the serious ones.

I mean, if we'd known he didn't have more money than you...

I agree it's time to pounce,she's definitely going to want a side piece til the wedding,and the side usually gets her freaky moves.

But definitely don't want anything more than that.

She was impatient with dating six months before he asked her to marry him?

Red flag deluxe.

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Terrible read, dude.