Ok, the title pretty much says it all.

background: 20's and in college.

I have found out that my GF of 3years has been cheating on me with a guy from work. I suspect this has only been going on for a month or so but that doesn't really matter.

the guy she is cheating on me with is married and has a kid

She does not know that I have found out about their affair- once i became suspicious i obtained access to all of her email passwords, msn convos, facebook, etc.

We currently live together and are in a lease with 8months left.
i have talked to my landlord and he said he would let me out of the lease if i can find replacement tenants.

i own most of the stuff in the apartment- if i moved out all i would need to buy is a set of pots and pans. so like $50-100

Ever since I confirmed that she has been cheating on me I have been conflicted with what to do.

Should I:

a) confront her asap with the info I have found and try to break up peacefully, since we will have to live together for a couple weeks until we go our separate ways

b) secretly find replacement tenants, and then leave without notice when she is at work. - cutting off all contact, with the exception of a letter informing her that she needs to be out in X days/weeks

c) b) + attempting to destroy her and her boy toy as much as possible (posting evidence online, destroying her personal files, changing her passwords, notifying his wife of the affair, etc.)

D. Bang the guys wife

E. post pics

On a serious note. As much as B and C would be awesome, I think A is the best choice. I understand what she did is ****ed up. You seem like it is over between you two for sure, but I don't think you need to be a douche about it.

I would also tell the guys wife for sure. Don't embarrass your gf as much, but bring the world down on the guy. Make it biblical.

+1

or just do whatever you think you can live with. if you're gonna out her as a slut, destroy a marriage, ect and think you can look back in 6 months and still think it was a good idea, then go for it. esp if it'll make you feel better. i doubt it will.

get her v drunk, convince her to have a 3 some and then tell her you'll only continue seeing her if you can continue to keep other girls involved. you are in college right?

i'd man up here and take the blame. either you're boring/doing something wrong or you've been dating a whore for 3 years. it's one or the other.

Notify his wife. She's getting screwed over as well. So you're doing a good deed by informing her.

As much as I like the idea of revenge, no good can come out of that.

A. It's cliche but don't stoop to her level.

I dunno how you got access to all of that stuff but be happy you found out as soon as you did. Dunno what year you are but living with your gf in college is generally a bad idea.

on second thought, I like this option

F. http://crabrevenge.com/

Oh, I forgot one piece of info. I am also 70% certain that she was sending this guy full frontal shots on my birthday. While i don't have an email confirming it, he did send her a raunchy email the day before and I did find some solo shots on her comp done on my birthday. The pics seemed to match the content of the email he sent.

If I was getting cheated on, I would want to know.

if his wife is hot arrange to meet her and get caught ****ing her at where ever their hook up spot is when u know they will be there

hide cameras etc sell tape profit

the plot thickens, at the very least tell the dude's wife

okay. go for option c.

umm pics now

lol for real pics bro... make one of them your background and ask when and why she took them.

ahh you crushed me to it... nh

b

Destroying **** with the new bf makes you look weak imo. It might be ugly for her in the short-term but it'll validate her decision to leave you and make her happier down the road. Regardless of what you're going for c. will not be the best option.

should be infraction points for asking for advice in this spot without posting pics.

i'd stop going through emails. damage is done, no turning back and it's only gonna get worse from here. esp if you find out she's been cheating for 2.5 years or something crazy.

the fact that she's emailing pics leads me to believe she was bored. tough luck man. find somebody else. the quicker you do the quicker you'll feel better/forget about her.

how hot is your ex?

1-10

confronting her lessens the chances of 3 some

I'm not going to post pics right now just in case she reads the forums, which does do occasionally.

However, if I do go with C, they will probably make their way on here.

this post has me rethinking my answer

I read some advice online and it says that if a guy cheats on his girlfriend, it's because he lacks moral character, but if a girl cheats on his boyfriend it's because the boyfriend was doing something wrong and not caring for her enough. So you should definitely figure out what you did wrong

get proof and go to his wife with it imo.