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Originally Posted by Regret$
Anyone who is an alcoholic (everyone I know, have gone to school with, worked with pretty much) is going to meet the 'impulsivity'
I would never voluntarily live with an alcoholic (yes, I have known several, including family).
Somebody upthread mentioned that if you're living with people with BPD (or similarly severe mental and emotional issue) there's likely something wrong with you as well. If the only people you know are alcoholics, it's extremely likely you are one too. Or you are also very damaged in other ways. In which case, you are a terrible judge of "normalcy". Your baselines are completely off. Most people will not put up with the crap that comes with living like that.
(Given the rest of your posts, it's also very likely your misdiagnosing a lot of these people as alcoholics when they really aren't).
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Originally Posted by Regret$
which will lead to selfimage problems.
We're not talking about a little bit of a self-esteem problem:
http://outofthefog.net/CommonBehavio...sturbance.html
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Originally Posted by Regret$
Maybe their alcoholic friends suck and they don't want to leave their life long friends..
Hanging out from time to time with some friends who have some, shall we say, baggage is entirely different from living with and having a serious relationship with them.
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Originally Posted by Regret$
'frantic efforts to prevent real abandonment' is hardly irrational.
The key word there is "frantic". Going out, getting drunk and getting into a bar fight because the woman you've been living with for two years slept with your best friend is not "frantic". This is "frantic:
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Originally Posted by pudley4
She threw a remote at me and hit me in the head just after we got engaged because an old girlfriend said Hi to me. She shattered a drinking glass on my shoulder. She cut my head open with a coffee mug (I later passed out from loss of blood). She cut my eye with her engagement ring when she hit me while we were on our way to couples therapy. She hit me over the head with a wooden table leg.
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Originally Posted by Regret$
If you don't have what you want in life I'm quite sure you will feel some emptiness. etc etc etc
Again, there is a difference between "chronic" and "some". Everybody has the occasional dark time of the soul at 3am. "Chronic" is when it is
every day. At all hours of the day. And it impacts your life on a consistent basis.
You basically profiled someone have between .5 (alcoholic) and 1 (alcoholic + other impulse problems) of the criteria listed. And we're talking about someone with 5. You're not even in the same ballpark.
You seem to be having a very difficult time judging severity and context here. Nobody is saying that everybody doesn't have their quirks, their failings and their issues. But there are huge differences in degrees. Having to sleep with one eye open is not in any way, shape or form "normal".
If OP was a woman posting about a man, we'd be telling her to leave the abusive POS boyfriend and possibly call police and file assault charges.
Last edited by Cry Me A River; 10-24-2013 at 03:47 PM.