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Originally Posted by Tom Ames
What people are saying is that they are ready to see actions, not plans, from you after this length of time.
Tried getting a job--you didn't put much effort into this other than showing up.
I did honestly try. I wasn't prepared, but I went in with the midnset to get the job.
Created a boundary--one boundary, which you voluntarily suspended.\
Been over this.
Putting together a resume'--how long does that take for your job history? 15 minutes?
I didn't know what to do. I spent 3 hours looking at examples, and trying to pad it out, and left it at saying I completed Year 12, and then saying the subjects I did. I am adding my poker and band experience though now as well, while trying to keep it professional.
Gone into therapy--how many sessions? any progress on any front?
It's my fourth session tommorow, and I am seeing her weekly atm because I have been stressed and I feel I am making progress on my self-confidence issues.
Looking into volunteering--circled ads in the newspaper but done nothing else?
Can't work manual labor--sure you can. You just don't want to consider it.
Been over this
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Originally Posted by jlozan84
I don't recall from the thread (so sorry if you've already stated), but is anyone in her family BPD?
Not that I know of. She doesn't like to talk about her family, and apart from her Mum who I have only met once, I don't know anyone else in her family. I'm going to say no though, because it came from her trauma from when she was younger rather than anything genetic.
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Originally Posted by ClarkNasty
This is all fair. Keep making progress. If you don't have other interviews lined up, make it happen. How many applications for jobs have you filed since your interview. Did you take notes about what worked and what didn't while it was fresh to help you prepare? Simultaneously, do the volunteer thing, great idea.
No interviews yet, but I have applied at 2 different supermarkets and a K-Mart. I bought a pair of black shoes and a pair of black formal pants today, purely for any interviews I get in the future. And at Big W, I was sitting back in my chair and had my hands in my pockets, and I realise how bad that must have looked, so I am going to change the way I sit, and the attitude I give off. I also tried RP'ing some questions I might get in a job interview with my gf over the phone today, and I still am terrible at that and not sure if I'm ready, but am trying and working on getting better.
Not going to lie, when I saw MisaChan's post, my heart rate tripled because the first thing I saw was just the caps part of the post, and initially thought it was my gf. lol. To reply though, the thing that stood out to me the most in your post was the way you said society says that BPD's can't love. And that must suck, because I know my gf is capable of love and affection, and I know she is a great person, but a lot of people will never be able to truly see that because most won't be able to see past the BPD. And I know manipulation isn't deliberate, but it's like when my gf threatens suicide and cries, I know now that it's still manipulation whether she means it or not, because she knows I can't handle it and I know she knows it hurts me when she gets like that. I know it's hurting her as well, but to give an example, After my Big W interview, and I called my gf over, when I was in the heat of being upset, I still never said I was going to hurt myself, because I know it's not fair to be using those sort of serious threats as emotional weapons against someone you care about, and that's the thing that personally affects me the most about it when she gets to that stage.
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Originally Posted by jmakinmecrzy
The hostile responses are at least partially due to that joke of a vasectomy thread in which he was pretty dishonest, so i'm not really sure what anyone is doing here.
I feel like I should apologise for the "Finding A Woman Who Doesn't Want Kids" thread. Please don't hold those stupid and bitter ramblings against me.
Last edited by MichaelScarn; 12-10-2013 at 01:12 PM.