this was quite harsh, but really shows who invented the English language.

I don't know man. Most trolls are unoriginal and mundane.

There are people as stupid as MS in this world. So I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt.

I've asked myself if he's a troll since the beginning, but if so, he's an elite troll because he's exactly describing a BPD and is exactly falling for it just as people tend to.

My biggest question was how it came up that the BPDgf had read A Guide to Rational Living.

Assuming it's legit, I'd be interested in the progress the OP has made on the Eggshells book.

I too think the thread is a level. The ODB song locking in bathroom thing and the way he constantly rationalizes everything is just too much. Good Job OP you tricked internet people into wasting their time giving you advice!!!

Well he's lied in a thread repeatedly in the past. He obviously isn't KKF, but he made this thread, got a lot of advice--took a little of it, but for the most part stuck the course and is consistent with a troll in his actions. If he's not a troll, he is clearly a little off his rocker. I guess that might be due to his addiction to weed and of course that he is willing to put up with his BPD GF.

In 3 weeks. I don't really know how many sessions I am going to have, I am just going to take as it comes.



As I have said 1000 times, I have been with other girls, but I have never felt so strongly about a girl in my entire life as I do with my gf. I don't know why so many people find that hard to believe. And how am I going to assimiliate into society? I have been out of school for 3 years and done nothing, I barely passed Year 12, I have no qualifcations, I am not strong enough physically to work as a labourer, I am not smart enough to work as an office pen-pusher, I am too old to even get a job at McDonalds, because they only hire 16 year olds, and older people with degrees that can eventually work as a manager. I have no damn options, ok. And even if i did, I don't have the motivation to do it anyway. I am unhireable.



I 12-table $10 SnGs for the most part right now, while occasionally taking a shot at a larger MTT. I also received not only the house, but also the majority of my late Grandma's money in her will, so even if I don't make enough to pay the bills one month, I am still stable enough in the bank to deal with bills and necessities for a little while at least. My gf doesn't have a job, but she does receive benefits from the government, and here in Australia, benefits for people with disabilities are pretty decent, and tbh she did help me out last month with the electricity bill, so she sort of is paying "rent" in a way. And you seriously have no clue what my Father was like, if it's right for him to tell me that after I failed a Year 7 Maths Test, that he doesn't see me as his son anymore, and that he doesn't want me calling him Dad anymore because it embarasses him to have me as his son, then fine.



When she came out and told me that she had BPD, I asked her what it was, and what she has been doing to treat it etc..., and she told me she was on meds like Risperdal and Prozac, and that she was occasionally seeing a therapist, and she mentioned a couple of books she has read. A Guide To Rational Living was one of them.

As for Walking On Eggshells, I have been reading through it, but it really feels to me that it is telling me to be her counsellor rather than her bf. I just can't see how this will work, because I know I am not capable of distancing myself the way it describes. Dale was telling me similar ways to handle the relationship, but I simply can't do it like that. I have tried to do the whole "Should I call 000" when she starts having an attack, but I can't. I simply am not wired to just be able to be emotionless and not get myself involved when it is someone that I care about. I am still commited to creating a boundary of having 2 days a week apart, but that I think is more for both of us than just myself or just for her.



Where have I lied repeatedly in the past? I wasn't really lying about the vasectomy, because I was so set on getting it, that at that time in my life I had already told myself it was done. I had found the doctor and everything, I just never went through with the damn thing. And what is KKF?

You need to be. It's the only way to avoid enmeshment.

I mean, you're admitting you're in trouble. That book tells you how to protect yourself. Ignoring it is to go down with the Titanic and refuse to get into the lifeboat.

OP - what are gonna do when this honeymoon phase of love ends? You know those feelings go away eventually right? You'll just be stuck with someone who is violent. You really need to think rationally about this not with your emotions or your dick.

I don't really have too much to add other than I removed myself from a relationship with this type of girl, one month later she was ****ing one of my best friends who she manipulated to the point of him no longer talking to me. Trust me, they are amazing liars and master manipulators. If her attitude towards you has changed, it's for a reason. If she's making extra special effort with you, it's because she probably feels she lost her grip slightly and is re-asserting her dominance over you.

I quoted the above as you have a weird way of rationalizing everything. Not a criticism, just an observation and something you may want to think about when making decisions. Consider the objective opinions of the majority and weight them more heavily. It's as if you know what you should do, but you're rationalizing her behaviour because you sincerely want her motives to be genuine. They're most probably not. You won't accept this just now for sure, because you want to see the best in her, just don't beat yourself up too badly during this process as the period of self analysis post mortem will drive you crazy otherwise.

My God OP. You admit you can't handle this girl and that she will likely destroy your life. Yet, you still won't break up with her. Are you a masochist?

At this point, the only reason to follow this thread is schadenfreude gained from your inability to deal with this situation. You have done nothing more than give lip service to the advice here. You are beyond help. All there is to watch for is the inevitable moment where you fail miserably and ruin your life.

Masochism stretches beyond enjoyment of physical pain.

You say that like it's a bad thing

Yea, this is getting sad as ****.

Where have you lied??? Maybe you should go read that thread again. I'm outta here. This guy is feeding us a truckload of BS.

/unsubscribe

You don't get the book then, but it's ok. Whenever I have had to give that book to someone I tell them it is just for them, if they show it to their BPDer, or try to counsel them, get ready for a immediate ride to hell. Initially you want to run to them and say I get it now, we can solve the problem. But you don't get it if that's the way you think. OP, you are getting a lot of secondary gain here, and it's just not the place, you were given excellent support forums earlier in the thread and you need to take it there, where there are specific threads for people who like you, want to stay in their relationships. You should PM a mod and ask the thread be locked, come back and update it in a few months.

I'm reminded in some ways of the BRANDI wars in NVG, everybody ate it up, even me, but it slowly dawned on me what she was, then I was ashamed and knew the outcome of that kind of public flailing of a BPD could never be good. Just hope it was as forgotten as all her other life run-ins in whatever her actions and the situations that brought her there, were at the end.

Son, this is serious, pm the Mod, go to those forums, they will treat you good.

I'm friends with the monster that’s under my bed

Get along with the voices inside of my head

You trying to save me, stop holding your breath

And you think I’m crazy, yeah, you think I’m crazy

was 2p2 the reason she killed herself? (or the thing that pushed her over the edge?)

doubt it. chick was nuts.

some would say yea. I think we're still not even supposed to talk about it on this site.

That's what happens when I troll.

Well, I told my gf straight-up this morning that I needed 2 days a week where she doesn't stay with me, and as I expected she got really pissed off at me, she kept asking me Why, and What has gone wrong and what is the problem, and that she can't go back to staying with her Mum. And then she told me that if the government cut off her DSP-(disability support pension) that she would be homeless. But although it was tough, I didn't give in, I remained assertive and told her that if she can't accept it, then it isn't going to work. She left in a total rage but didn't get physical or anything. I felt positive about myself that I stood my ground for a short time after, but it is 6 hours on now, and I am feeling down, and have been for the past 5 or so hours. I was supposed to use this time to grind, but haven't played all day, and have really just been laying on my couch feeling depressed wanting to either text or call her, but restraining myself from doing so. Also, she left some of her meds here.

I was just wondering if I should wait until she calls or texts me, or if I should call her tonight? And if I don't call her tonight, how long should i wait until I do call her if she doesn't call me? I am just worried she is going to harm herself, and I want to make sure she is OK.

This is even more hopeless than I thought.

What you're actually worried about is that she'll break up with you. She won't.

It's not even that. I just don't know if I should call her, or if I should wait until she calls me?