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Originally Posted by MichaelScarn
I really don't think it's fair to call her a "lunatic" or a "crazy person", yeah OK she has issues, more issues than the average person, but that doesn't make her a lunatic. It's not her fault she had a really ****ty upbringing, and it's not her fault that she sometimes has outbursts because of it.
She threw a plate at your head. It doesn't matter who you want to blame, that is not normal behavior and not a relationship you should be in. Why are you trying so hard to defend her (this question is for OP, not everyone else that knows the answer)?
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Originally Posted by MichaelScarn
I went to see the therapist today <snip> and she wasn't really offering me much back tbh, and kept asking me in subtle ways if the build-up of all this has made me suicidal <snip> I don't know why, but I think she thought I was suicidal-(I'm not), which was a bit disconcerting. But then we worked on my assertiveness and that was it.
The therapist doesn't know you at all, so what could she offer you on the first session? This was an opportunity for her to get to know you to figure out what the problem is and what the best treatment modality would be.
As for the suicide stuff, that's just routine for the first visit. She just wanted to be sure that you're safe and not going to hurt yourself, as people that seek mental health treatment (and those that should but don't) are at increased risk of suicide. Plus, once you've seen her, she could be liable if you do hurt yourself and she didn't properly assess for your safety. So it's not that she thought you were suicidal, it's that she had to find out.
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Originally Posted by vorvzakone
I'm interested in the therapist....you're american, right? Paying for this? Sounds like a bit of a waster, this person. Sitting there, letting you do all the talking, not giving back the quite concrete and intelligent insights and recommendations you require and deserve. This will be excused as 'allowing the subject to heal through talking' or similar bs. And the insights, when they came, sound pretty dumb and possibly harmful. Move to dump unless that improves, I'd say. Could make a big difference to the outcome here. There's a lot of scope in psychology and counselling for this type of bs, imo.
It's as if you don't actually know how therapy works yet you have strong opinions about it. Sad.