Shocking turn of events. I don't think anyone saw this coming.

shocked this was going to end poorly. totally shocked.

OP, punch yourself in the eye, call cops and say she hit you. Decline to press charges and tell them to just get her the **** away from you. Smile and blow her a kiss as they walk her out.

Ez game

While her anger is totally reasonable, the amount of anger almost never is.

Right when I got to the bolded, I stopped reading, opened Spotify, pulled up Shimmy Shimm Ya, turned the volume up to 11, then continued to read.

this is all so surprising...........

Years from now, assuming you live through it, at least you'll have some good stories to tell your friends. Also assuming she hasn't alienated you from all of them.

Now that OP has ignored every other person telling him to GTFO, what is the purpose of this thread? Seems that most of us are just waiting on the inevitable failure of the relationship and saying that we told him so.

Is it possible that we all got leveled?

Lost it at this post. Def needs more love.

This is one of those clever threads where OP is villain.

OP, did you lose your virginity to this girl or something?

Probably not yet.

OP has either re-entered the 95% state of bliss or is learning how much he underestimated what 5% is.

A lot of that will be discussed in the book. But in a nutshell, there are ways that it's acceptable for her to behave towards you. You need to understand how to let her know what those rules are and constantly enforce them.



That is incredibly dangerous, and part of why boundaries are important. What you are suggesting is the exact opposite of what you need to do. There's a way to both empathize without enabling and to protect yourself while still being supportive.

Im gona call it right now

Op is Op ...And...


Crazy gf is one of his personalities *! Waaaaghhoihvcf

It's a great sign that she has the book Guide to Rational Living. Sounds like she may need to re-read it. Also sounds like she's not in regular therapy which is a huge red flag.

grunch

Well she came out at 6AM and pretty much acted like nothing happened, it didn't look like she was crying, but when I asked her if she was OK, she just said she was fine and we went back to bed. I didn't see any cuts on her body at all either so I am sure she wasn't cutting herself-(which is what I was most worried about). It's almost 4PM now, and I've been grinding most of the day-(finally had an uninterrupted session) but she is still sleeping. I am probably going to just not even mention what happened with this morning, or her Mother last night, and take her to dinner later tonight. I'm pretty confused, but I am thinking that maybe in a strange way, it's a good sign that she calmed down without any violence or screaming or crying?

And yeah, she wasn't in regular therapy, but she will be from this week though, and we are both going in this Friday.



No.

I've dated more than one cutter. One cut the bottom of her feet to hide the scars. Not that you'd check, but some cutters will go to some lengths to hide it.

She could have been huffing. Is she into getting high?

Or maybe she was stopped up really bad and took a two hour ****.

She definately doesn't huff, we smoked pot together in the first 2 months of the relationship, but she said she thought it was starting to make her feel more paranoid, so we stopped. I think she was just sitting in there doing nothing tbh. I might bring it up at the counselling session though to see if she says there was anything else involved.

OP here's what's happened: Clearly you've fallen somewhat in love with this girl. I ask you what has she done (besides ****ing you) so much better than any other girl you've been with. Try for a second to step outside yourself and see your situation as we see it. Is there anything worthwhile about her? Imagine that she is an ex that nearly worked out: has she really done anything that would have tipped the scales towards you staying with the last broad?

I doubt it. I also seriously doubt that you've had no issues with mothers/exes/teachers/whatever in the past. There is some aching hole whose pain you are trying to palliate. She will not fill that hole, but she might tear it open and leave parisitic larvae.

MichaelScarn,

There's no great solution. Clark's post was awesome. The only thing I have to add is writing each other notes and letters could be a way to communicate in a healthier way when emotions rise. This is good for all relationships. It's hard to talk about feelings.

Had someone told me this while I was where OP is, I never would've listened.

you really just need to learn it for yourself. maybe it's part of becoming a man.

Uno, do you count it as cheating if we tell each other before?

Appears to be the case with OP.

MS, your infatuation (based on your comments and the duration of the relationship, that's what it is now) will soon end and maintaining the relationship will be a chore that will only be done by you.

Tell her if she doesn't come out right now, you'll invite her mother over for breakfast.