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Originally Posted by surftheiop
read the OP and skipped the whole thread
Guess my question is somewhat related to bar/restaurant "social norms". I dont drink all that much beside a few beers a week and I never order drinks at restaurants/bars except for wine to go with my entree. The other day we were at a really nice place and I picked up the textbook of the wine list and spent awhile just looking at their cocktail list for fun. They had some super interesting sounding drinks involving various house made fruit infused liquors/local ingredients, etc.
My first thought was that back in college everyone would have considered those "girl drinks" and you would probably never see a guy order one. Does this stereotype still hold as people age or would you expect to see guys ordering those type of "fruity" cocktails in this setting? (I prefer to save my money for the wine, but would seem weird to have that many drinks on the menu that only women would order)
I'll answer this since it seems like it was passed over.
You asked about "house made fruit infused liquors/local ingredients". To me this could be a very wide range of things. A lavender infused gin, for example, isn't overly girly at all. A hot pepper infused tequila is also not girly at all. Ingredients like these can add fantastic elements and depth to cocktails.
Other house infusions, things like fruit flavored vodkas, I do tend to consider a bit girly. That doesn't mean the cocktails they're used to create aren't delicious but rather that you wouldn't catch me ordering them.
To give some examples the establishment I currently work at is in the Lehigh Valley of PA and is called "Blue". We consider ourselves a steakhouse and a wine bar but also with an extensive "martini" menu. Many of the things on the "martini" menu I wouldn't enjoy. With titles like "Midnight in Paris", "Pom Punch", and "Creamsicle" you can generally discern that most are rather fruity (or girly as we are saying).
Other martinis can be deceptive. We have one called the "Blue Martini" which, not considering the name, sounds like some sweety concoction using Blue Curacao as flavoring and color. In reality it is simply 4 ozs of Belvedere and some blue cheese stuffed olives. Not very girly at all. Another example is the "Hendricks Gin Martini". This is simply 4 ozs of Hendricks gin, a bit of muddled cucumber, and a cucumber slicer garnish. Again, not very girly.
To my dismay we don't use many infused ingredients so it isn't a direct parallel but may give you an example of what I mean. I'd have no problem ordering from the latter category but would stay away from the first.
Granted, this is as much because I prefer very spirit heavy cocktails to a bunch of mixers. If I enjoyed the fruity girly drinks I would hope I would say screw everyone else and I'd order what I like.
So after my long rant, in summary, unless you care to impress or value the opinion of your drinking companions just order whatever the heck sounds good. Screw what everyone else thinks. (Unless you're on a date obviously).
One of my favorite cocktail books, "Speakeasy", is written by some of the owners of Employees Only, a very well regarded cocktail bar in NYC. Almost all (if not all) of their drinks employ some type of house infusion or ingredient. For reference their aren't a whole lot of drinks I would be ashamed to order. Check out their menu (or better yet their book).
http://www.employeesonlynyc.com/