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What would you tell your 25-yr-old-self? What would you tell your 25-yr-old-self?

09-20-2013 , 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted by dc_publius
There's a lot of bitter people who made the wrong choice and they are pretty loud about it.
I suspect most people bitter about the choice they made would be bitter whatever choice they had made.
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09-20-2013 , 03:04 PM
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Originally Posted by chezlaw
I suspect most people bitter about the choice they made would be bitter whatever choice they had made.
if most ppl were satisfied with their choices we would be still in caves
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09-20-2013 , 03:49 PM
Another one -

Be around people who genuinely want the best for you. Many people you interact with will want you to fail. Not because they are bad people or malicious, but because they see your success as invalidation of their own beliefs and behavior choices. Almost all of them behave this way without being conscious of their behavior.

The people who are genuinely happy for you when good things happen in your life are the people you want to be around. This is also the person you want to be.
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09-20-2013 , 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted by chopstick
Another one.
Another one (but almost the same).

Find 5 closest friends and calculate the average -> that is your life EV. If you don't like it find new friends at once.

bitter friends = bitter you = bitter life
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09-20-2013 , 04:08 PM
This is the way I was going to rephrase chopstick's quote as well.

Be friends with people that you want to be like. Regardless of whether this is about professional or personal life, if you surround yourself with people who already reached what you want to reach, chances of you reaching it are much better. The group as a whole is stronger and each individual is stronger, but it is a lot better to be dragging down the average than propping up the average. Socio-economic stratification at its best.
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09-20-2013 , 06:10 PM
A related concept is be suspicious of anyone too eager to be your friend when they are much less well off.
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09-20-2013 , 06:40 PM
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Originally Posted by chezlaw
I suspect most people bitter about the choice they made would be bitter whatever choice they had made.
QFT. I'm happily divorced and find the entire thing a source of great and humorous stories along with being greatly educational about my self. Plus got some great kids out of the deal.

I don't think I'd want to give my 25-year-old self any advice. My life has been a pretty nice experience so far and I'd not want him screwing it up by trying too hard.
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09-20-2013 , 09:09 PM
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Originally Posted by BrianTheMick2
QFT. I'm happily divorced and find the entire thing a source of great and humorous stories along with being greatly educational about my self. Plus got some great kids out of the deal.

I don't think I'd want to give my 25-year-old self any advice. My life has been a pretty nice experience so far and I'd not want him screwing it up by trying too hard.
You sound like the douche that kept cracking paternity jokes from the audience at the last Carrot Top show I went to.
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09-21-2013 , 08:09 AM
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Originally Posted by Truthsayer
You sound like the douche that kept cracking paternity jokes from the audience at the last Carrot Top show I went to.
I'll take the other side of that bet. 2k ok?
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09-21-2013 , 11:22 AM
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Originally Posted by dc_publius
Time is ticking on your relationships, too. Very few hot and smart girls - that don't have a lot of baggage - are still available past 25-27.
This times 20,000. Late 20s to mid 30s is an absolute deadzone for women. After your mid 30s, some hot and reasonably sane divorcees will start to trickle back into the market.
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09-21-2013 , 11:45 AM
Tell myself to buy a fair share of 10-13-14-22-52 Powerball tickets for May 18th 2013...

someone had to say it

travel and not to sweat the small stuff.
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09-21-2013 , 12:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Truthsayer
You sound like the douche that kept cracking paternity jokes from the audience at the last Carrot Top show I went to.
You sound like a douche that willingly went to a Carrot Top show. Seriously that dude wasn't funny when people thought he was... and that was like literally 30 years ago.
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09-21-2013 , 01:50 PM
Build a solid foundation first (finances, work experience, education), then take calculated risks. And take a lot of calculated risks. Don't do what you're passionate about until you have the foundation taken care of, unless what you're passionate about makes you plenty of money (i.e. good for you if your passion is medicine or investment banking, but be cautious otherwise). Related: get financially independent, or close to it, ASAP unless you love what you're doing.

Also, related to the women posts, I feel like if you're a man in your 30's you shouldn't be dating women that are your age. Go for the 25 year olds. That's one advantage of being male.
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09-21-2013 , 03:06 PM
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Originally Posted by dc_publius
- Don't waste your money on things that don't matter (brands/status symbols/luxury goods), but also be careful because social signalling is a very powerful force.

- You can often trade time to save money, but it's rarely worth it.

- Save, build an emergency fund, then grow your appreciating assets. Having that XX,XXX cushion makes everything easier and opens a lot of possibilities.

- Avoid depreciating assets. If you have to have something, buy used to take a smaller hit.

- Avoid things that waste your time and tempt you to buy crap. TV/magazines/auto review web sites/etc. Get some real hobbies instead of watching other people do stuff.

- Time is ticking on your career. You better make it a priority, learn skills, and advance now. It gets harder and harder later on.

- Time is ticking on your relationships, too. Very few hot and smart girls - that don't have a lot of baggage - are still available past 25-27.

(I'm 32.)
But I really want that $15k Patek Phillipe...
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09-21-2013 , 06:47 PM
That if I'm 30ish he should wait till something more like the 50 year old version comes back to give advice
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09-22-2013 , 12:31 PM
Buy as many rental houses as you can get your hands on. Go travel and you'll be fine...
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09-22-2013 , 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted by ilovesmokes
This times 20,000. Late 20s to mid 30s is an absolute deadzone for women. After your mid 30s, some hot and reasonably sane divorcees will start to trickle back into the market.
There should be a study on this.
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09-22-2013 , 11:33 PM
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Originally Posted by MikeSki
There should be a study on this.
It is. It's called life.
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09-22-2013 , 11:48 PM
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Originally Posted by ilovesmokes
This times 20,000. Late 20s to mid 30s is an absolute deadzone for women. After your mid 30s, some hot and reasonably sane divorcees will start to trickle back into the market.
Apparently you don't know why these women are getting divorced. Just wait until you experience trying to live with a women going through perimenopause depression.

All those mid 30's to mid 40's divorces will make sense.
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09-23-2013 , 12:14 AM
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Originally Posted by powder_8s
Apparently you don't know why these women are getting divorced. Just wait until you experience trying to live with a women going through perimenopause depression.

All those mid 30's to mid 40's divorces will make sense.
You aren't doing it right. Not every gal you meet is going to fit with you long-term and it takes some time to figure it out with each relationship.

They've (whoever you are with) got the same problem. You aren't who they married and they (perhaps) just don't like you like they used to.

People change. Roll with the punches. Know that some relationships go poof. Try not to be an ******* if your hopes and dreams about a particular relationship don't come to fruition.

FWIW, I'm happily divorced and (after years) feel a kindness towards my ex. If it weren't for her, I'd be living a different life. I like my life. She was a part of it.
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09-23-2013 , 12:46 AM
I am 24, so I will stand on the shoulders of 2p2 'giants' and relay some good advise I've taken up.

These threads might be a little dated... better suited to 18-19 y/o but still great.

http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/39...-money-228823/

http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/39...ollege-229558/

http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/39...a-here-230441/

And of course, adsman.

http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/79...your-life-787/
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09-23-2013 , 01:33 AM
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Originally Posted by dc_publius
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- Time is ticking on your relationships, too. Very few hot and smart girls - that don't have a lot of baggage - are still available past 25-27.

(I'm 32.)
agree on this one 100%.... and i lived in a smaller midwestern city (600k population) and it was much more true there than in big cities (where i think it's true too). i might increase your ages a bit but i agree 100% on the idea.
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09-23-2013 , 01:37 AM
build a foundation in every way. you will find at 40 that you can't get places you want if you haven't done things earlier.

this one's hard to articulate.... if you seem to have highly destructive habits, try to give some thought as to why that might be and what can be done about it.... don't just give in to "well, i'm young" or "it's just the way i am".....

i got treatment for ADHD (both specialists thought it was fairly severe) far too late in life. explained a ton of things in my life and i'm a completely different person (not that i was a bad person before the diagnosis, but i was my own worst enemy)
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09-23-2013 , 03:33 AM
Somthing I never thought about - I had strong relationships with business professionals which have been very useful but then:

My accountant retired and passed me onto a younger partner who I also knew
The younger accountant has retired
My solicitor has retired

Suddenly I dont know anybody I trust in these areas and that's a real pain. Came as a bit of a suprise.
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09-23-2013 , 08:47 AM
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Originally Posted by dc_publius
Time is ticking on your relationships, too. Very few hot and smart girls - that don't have a lot of baggage - are still available past 25-27.

(I'm 32.)
Cmon really? So we should marry a girl who is 25-27 asap because the world will run out of 25-27 year old girls? Probably the worst advice I've ever heard. How about wait until you want to get married then marry whatever age you want. If you are lazy about your appearance and are overweight and unattractive at 35 then that is your own fault. Women definitely date and marry older guys so saying you are "too old for her" is nonsense.


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Originally Posted by BrianTheMick2
You aren't doing it right. Not every gal you meet is going to fit with you long-term and it takes some time to figure it out with each relationship.

They've (whoever you are with) got the same problem. You aren't who they married and they (perhaps) just don't like you like they used to.

People change. Roll with the punches. Know that some relationships go poof. Try not to be an ******* if your hopes and dreams about a particular relationship don't come to fruition.

FWIW, I'm happily divorced and (after years) feel a kindness towards my ex. If it weren't for her, I'd be living a different life. I like my life. She was a part of it.
Doing it right is getting married and divorced bc owell didnt work this time? Doing it right imo is staying the fk away from marriage and dating all the girls who divorce their unfortunate husbands.

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