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Originally Posted by hardongear
But then I've always also kept a good poker, family and real life balance. This is also key I believe even if you play for a living.
Cheers!!!
I think you nailed it here. This is a discussion about balance and boundaries.
If you live a well balanced life, and you've setup appropriate boundaries, you're doing this the right way. If you're not, you need to be self aware enough to know when your friends and family are raising legitimate red flags about your poker playing lifestyle.
I would recommend books by Gabor Mate if anyone is interested in reading a medical professional's thoughts on topics related to this. More specifically, "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" is a good read. Dr. Mate has a youtube channel too.
I know a guy who is... forgive the pun... underwater on his boat loan. The thing spends more time in the repair shop than in the water.
The friends and family don't degrade or insult him for being $XXX,XXX in debt on an asset. I doubt they even know, or care about the amount of debt he has on this thing.
Any why would they?
If they treated him like a degenerate who makes bad decision, he might stop inviting them out for weekends at the lake.
If said friend was $XXX,XXX in debt to a loan shark due to gambling, they'd likely wouldn't think too highly of him.
I personally do not see any difference in being $XXX,XXX in debt to a loan shark and being $XXX,XXX in debt over an demonstrably bad investment like I described above.
One has a negative social stigma, while the other, has a positive stigma but the net result is the same. At the end of the day, if you're having fun living your one and only shot at life, then you're doing it right. Anything else, you're doing it wrong.