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Originally Posted by ghostofdc13
I think this might have got derailed quite abit (myself partially to blame)
While I believe that you 100% had the right to make your OP, I think it may be a good idea for you to stop posting since you have already achieved probably close to 100% of what you were striving to accomplish (with the exception of getting your cash back) when you wrote the post.
I understand that it is very frustrating to do a good deed for someone and have that person not live up to/not fulfill their obligation(s) to you. When money is involved these feelings of anger and frustration are further exacerbated, and sometimes the party that has been wronged loses their perspective with respect to the entire situation along with their own culpability.
Before you start to make assumptions about me or my intentions, I'll disclose that I do, or did know Max pretty well. I have also played a decent amount of MTTs, so I can appreciate the need for loans or the exchange of funds between players. I'm not an apologist for Max, or any other guy who has borrowed money and not paid back their lenders. I'm also not prepared to say that Max should be forgiven because he has a "disease," although if he did it would be ironic given the screen name of his biggest lender.
I want to try to make my point without offending any of the creditors, especially Parts Unknown, who I know to be a super solid guy, whom I have a ton of respect for.
My issue with OP is that he is taking zero responsibilty for the situation in which he finds himself in. As poker players we constantly quantify things like equity, odds and expectation. When you loan another player money, it's kind of like calling for a chop. In other words, the loan can't have a postive EV unless you charge interest. Banks and other lenders use this interest to offset losses incurred when borrowers default on their loans.
I'm sure OP isn't naive enough to think that his expectation was to get back the entire amount of the loan, given the uncertainty that the future holds. I'm not a actuary but the small chance that a borrower can die (before he gets around to repaying the loan) slightly decreases your expectation. There are many other factors that can have a negative effect and decrease the value of the debt you own.
I appreciate the fact that OP made this post as I think that it has prompted a realization by Max that he needs to take action, not only to save his reputation, but more importantly, because it is the right thing to do.
I have been accused at times of having a laissez faire attitude in my approach to dealing with others, but the way I look at it if someone stiffs me, thats one less jerk that I have to deal with. Additionally, I probably won't have to go to any great effort to avoid this deadbeat since I will be the last person that they want to see. If it makes OP feel better, or has a cathartic effect, then by all means continue posting in this thread, but please realize that in doing so you may come across as entitled, unworldly and self-righteous.
Last edited by erc007; 09-30-2014 at 02:32 AM.