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Originally Posted by michelle227
I started playing NLHE in early 2007...started with bar league where owner/friend needed butts in the seats. Was playing cash less than six months later and doing well. Honed the non NLHE games online prior to Black Friday...and those were what I spent more time playing during June in Vegas.
I still see some of the same issues at tables now that I saw a decade ago. Dealers are more willing to be proactive in shutting down the nonsense, and some of the homophobic comments have died off as the various court rulings have come down and more people don't hide being gay or lesbian.
Wishes of luck don't bother me in a general sense...comments are viewed in context of the conversations going on at the table. There is no one-size-fits-all approach.
One of my female friends was in the Main Event and before it began, she was sitting next to the only other woman at the table. A guy came in, looked at everyone at the table without saying anything, and when he came to them, he doffed his hat and said "good luck, ladies." That really bothered them because they thought to themselves "why would he need to say good luck to us and not everyone? Why single us out?"
I know most guys here think that perhaps she was being too sensitive (I think that, too) but it doesn't change the fact that that's how they felt and that comments many of us perceive as innocuous can be viewed differently by the people we are speaking to. That's why I think it best that we don't point out women at the table or single them out for comments, even if well intentioned. It can make them feel as if they are being divided from the rest of everyone rather than treated the same.