Congrats on moving up! You'll find with every level you progress, customs you thought were standard seem flipped on their heads. Keep an open mind.
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Originally Posted by Dragon Ash
Was I being a dick for asking twice for him to show?
It doesn't really matter what we think. We're not at the table donating money to you.
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Originally Posted by Dragon Ash
Villain stormed off and didn't come back to the table, which is unusual since when he plays he usually plays until late.
If Villain thinks you're a dick, then you're a dick, regardless of intent. Poker is a game of incomplete information. Based on his incomplete information, he thinks you're a dick. Based on how you want to maximize your profits, you can choose how to adjust your behavior to give him what he wants.
The others at your table aren't your
competitors, they're your
customers. Put yourself on a higher level. Hold yourself to a higher standard. Let your customers do things that you
wouldn't do. View their lack of sophistication as a
good thing. Don't do anything to get them out of their mental state of happy spewage.
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Originally Posted by Dragon Ash
So once I called I really wanted to see what he was holding.
"Yeah, I have a goofy two pair. Missed draw? If I didn't catch that lucky deuce, I probably would've folded."
Or something like that, base it on your relationship. Right now you're concerned about the specific information of the hand. But if you relax from that sharp focus and view the larger picture, he might not only tell you his cards, but tell you his
thought process. He might even share the most important information of all, which is
what he thought you had.
Go a level deeper. Get him on your side so that you can get MORE information. Spend a little to gain a lot.
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Originally Posted by Dragon Ash
Bolded part - really?? I mean, two pair is never the nuts on any hand.
It is on this hand, as he told you he was weak.
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I may or may not have an equally good reason for not wanting to show what I called with.
Here's my reason for showing my cards immediately at showdown: I want the pot.
If you're showing failed bluff-catchers too often, then you're calling too much. But this is not a case where you should be afraid to show, because you clearly have the best hand, so that reasoning doesn't apply here anyway.
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Originally Posted by Dragon Ash
But in that case he should muck directly and not sit there holding on to his cards waiting for -me- to declare my hand. That was the reason for me to ask twice for him to show.
Don't worry about what others "should" do while in a hand with you. Let them flail and throw fits. That's up to
them.
Act like a gentleman. That's up to
you.
At higher stakes than 1/2, it's fairly common for showdown to go like this:
Bettor: "I missed."
Caller: "I have an Ace."
Bettor mucks.
Caller shows to verify.
Done and done. People are either trapping or bluffing. At least one person at showdown is fairly certain where he stands in the hand.
Right now you're at a level where nobody really knows what's going on, which is why we have these staredowns, but keep at it and you'll improve.
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Originally Posted by Dragon Ash
Hmm, ok. I guess I understand...but in that case having a 'whoever bet shows first' rule in the first place is just kinda stupid if trying to apply it just results in hurt feelings...
That's the backup safety net. I know you're in the UK, and you've imported rules and are trying to follow them. But these rules are a record of precedent, not a guide for play. They're how we handle it when things break down. The general rule of showdown is that the person who has the best hand is encouraged to show first. That's how it goes almost every single time at the highest stakes. Shoot for that.
It doesn't matter if those around you follow suit. As you strive to be a more sophisticated player than those at your table, you'll start to see this as a good thing.
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Nah, I actually think there's a -larger- chance that he realizes he mis-read his hand if I show my cards first - maybe he realizes his kicker plays or something ******ed like that. Only happens if I show first.
Stop and think about what you're saying. You're saying if you show first, then he has a larger chance of realizing he misread his hand?
Once his cards are tabled, it doesn't matter if he mis-read. If he tables first, then his hand ABSOLUTELY plays. If you table first, then there's a chance he'll muck before realizing that he won or that it's a chopped pot.
If he tables his cards, they speak, regardless of what he thinks he has. Your logic on this is backwards.