The hand isn't totally important but it went down like this.
8 or 9 handed, £1/£1 NL.
Villain UTG+1: £200
Hero UTG+2: £184
UTG straddle £2
Villain raise to £6
Hero raise to £14
everyone else folds
Villain raise to £36
Hero calls.
Flop: J94r
check, check
Turn: 5
Villain bets £50
Hero raise to £148 all in
Villain tanks for 5 minutes...
So while he's tanking, he's contemplating a fold. Says he thinks I slowplayed preflop. Asks if I show if he folds. Puts the call next to the line and basically talking about how he's beat.
Problem 1: Then he shows his cards to a dealer he is friendly with behind him. She says "meh".
Problem 2: The table dealer is sort of conversing with him by now... actually saying things like "10 8 suited is good".. for the turned flush draw + OESD.
He folds QQ face up, and I muck AK face up. Thankfully, otherwise I'd have even more reason to complain.
To be fair, everyone is quite friendly, I've played with the villain and 2 dealers a bunch of times. So I'm not sure if things just got "over friendly" because it was an exciting hand, without realising I have a £150 bluff on the line, and they should all STFU.
So obviously I'm wondering if his hand can ever be called dead, for showing someone else. He's getting reads from people but to be honest I don't think he was actually "cheating". After the hand the table dealer said he put me on AK, so saying things to make the other guy call is even more questionable.
Have you been in a spot like this, or seen someone have their hand made dead for this sort of behaviour?
ps. I'm not needing feedback about how badly I played it. I have now banned myself from doing any bluff this silly in the future