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Originally Posted by rexcharger
Ask Aaron Hernandez.
His situation was the catalyst for the comment, but I softened the situation to make it more ambiguous who "should" be sorry. The point is that everyone wins when everyone trains themselves to be over-polite. And most importantly, when two of the three people involved is overpolite and the third is a drunk *******, everything still works out (sometimes one overapologetic guy and two *******s works out too). Being overapologetic is the slack in the line of life that's doubly important in places where drinking and emotions are high like clubs and casinos.
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Originally Posted by Dick Tracy
I don't apologize to people when I tell them they can't borrow money because I am not sorry.
Not even a little bit?
Like the next week you find out someone had degenned all his money away and went home and murder-suicided his family and you'd not even consider what would have happened if you had loaned him money?
How you set the bar for feeling sorry is a personal decision, but it's a pretty low bar to set so that you spend the extra effort to say one extra word. I'm not asking you to actually feel so sorry that you actually give money, only sorry enough that you'd say "sorry no" instead of "no."
And society as a whole would be a lot better if people did this in general, instead of making a mental calculation of exactly what is owed (manners-wise) and then aim for the absolute minimum.
To be clear, I'm never giving money. I'm not sorry that I have money and they have none. I'm not even sorry if I personally took their money at the table. But I am sorry that they're so desperate they're hitting up strangers for money. I'm sorry that their family will suffer because of bad decisions. And that's enough to justify saying "sorry no" instead of "no."