The OP asked what to do about his marriage not whether he should get married.

If you don't want to be married, no problem. Don't be married. But the question is what a married man who has already comingled his funds should do to get a separate bankroll.

All the "don't get married" **** should get Rapinied.

Greebo, excellent post, thank you.

Z4relo, I think many women view marriage as just that.

A business arrangement? I don't think you'll get too far in a relationship with such mistrust. I mean, really, the last half of this thread should be posted in OOT, as I'm quite interested in what led you to hold such views.

OOT, let's not even go there. My dating history over the last 15 months is covered extensively, and it's miserable

BBV4L, then?

Sure

It very much is a business agreement though. I know it's not very romantic to think of that way but it's real. Unfortunately too many people find out how much of a business arrangement it is when they are getting divorced.

It is an agreement. You agree to share everything. If you don't want to do that or think you'll get divorced down the road, don't get married.

Marriage is like moving in with your best friend, and spending every possible second with your best friend, forever.

Sure, you'll get on each other's nerves, and that one annoying habit they have will become magnified and drive you utterly crazy, and you'll bicker and argue endlessly, but your lives will be so intertwined you'll be completely unable to imagine living any other way. You'll be so close to another human being that your personalities will become intertwined. If you're ever in trouble, another person is guaranteed to have your back without being asked. You'll never not have someone to hang out with and you'll never have to watch a movie or eat a meal alone ever again. When you're in a crappy mood, someone else knows how to make you feel better and just does it, without being asked. Someone who believes in you. Someone who makes you pretend to be a better person than you really are, and you do that for so long you accidentally become a better person.

Can we take the pro/cons marriage out of this thread and somewhere else?

It's an important subject to alot of people who are married or might want to get married and the discussion should focus around how to have poker part of your life if wife isn't happy about it.

But the founding principles upon which a successful, lasting marriage rests are 100% relevant to how one deals with a disagreement over anything as important as finances, kids, beliefs and in-laws/family.

This thread started with OP basically saying, "I want to undermine one of the four key pillars of my marriage - one of the pillars upon which my wife's trust in me rests - is this a good idea?"

We said no. Now we're explaining why. That's absolutely on topic, and if some little boys with no clue as to what a healthy, successful, lasting marriage really is are going to chime in with their naive, my whims above all else arguments, well, we have to explain why our answer is no, don't we?

Preacher's back.

Gotta love it when the point is so eloquently proven.

pretty simple solution just take whatever you will need for a starting bankroll out of your next paycheck or several paychecks and build a br with that. if your playing 75/150 as a hobby i assume your making a decent six figure income, you should be able to set aside 3-5k as a starting bankroll. if moneys no issue than whether you make 5 figures or not a year from it shouldnt really matter, although it shouldnt be a problem at any stakes with 1000/hrs a year.

edit: on another note i think the only people who have a harder time than poker pros keeping a marriage together are strippers. your not a pro but you do spend an awful lot of time playing poker for a rec.

So, 6 years later....OP...WHAT WAS THE RESULT????

Solid bump.