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Originally Posted by browser2920
OK, I guess there's no point in going around and around on this. When someone talks to someone in a hand, the dealer should immediately stop it.
I agree he should. But as you know, he often doesn't. So what then are your options?
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I have seen far, far more instances when if the player tries to make the correction, that it escalates to the "who the **** are you" or "the dealer doesn't have a problem with it"
I also agree that this can happen. That's why I advocate going through the dealer. It works both ways. The dealer is protected because "the help" is doing what he's told instead of getting uppity, and the player is protected because the dealer is taking the brunt of the reaction. It's a weird bit of psychology, but in my experience at least, it seems to work well.
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But I guess where you play it's different, and people respond to players enforcing rules better than when dealers do it, and they have no respect for the dealer.
Even if it's just one a-hole every 5000 hands, that's still once a month. Something doesn't have to be frequent for it to make an impression. Intermittent reinforcement is the basis of all gambling, after all.
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Many people have a real ego problem and take offense when a player corrects them (right or wrong) as compared to the dealer. At least where I play.
I agree, but many people also look down on dealers, because they're just service workers. There's no one perfect solution. That's why I like the double insulation of asking the dealer to intervene.
By and large my room is pretty good. Almost everybody is friendly, and almost all players are regs. But at the same time, most dealers are very weak, and don't speak very good English. Plus, the floor has no power to kick somebody out without going through a lot of red tape, so only the most egregious offences are addressed. But still, it's a pleasant place to play, and one of my favourite rooms I've worked.
I'm a "dummy up and deal" kind of dealer. I'm not a bro. I'm not a cool kid. For the young guys, I'm not young enough to be a peer, but not old enough to be a parental figure. I'm also one of the only dealers who enforces OPTAH. And even though it's only a select few players who cause me grief, goddamn do I sometimes just want to throw up my hands and say "screw it, nobody else seems to care, and I have no effect, so why bother?"
I actually had an entire table stage a mutiny and refuse to play if I dealt any more. There was one player who was being especially problematic with following action. Other players actually complained to me that I wasn't doing enough to keep the game running. Slow-poke's buddy at the table, Mr. Alpha, was someone who thrives in the angles. He's actually said he's proud of that. But it's death by a thousand paper cuts. Anyway, he and his buddy started whispering their cards to each other while in a hand. I asked them to stop, they denied doing anything. Mr. Alpha took issue with me, and then harped on me for trying to keep slow-poke focused on the game. Other players at the table who wanted to be bros with Alpha - the same players who previously wanted me to speed up the game - now started criticizing me for being too pushy.
Of course, all upper management sees is that I tend to have problems at my tables, because I'm the only one trying to enforce these rules. They don't give a crap about the other 5000 hands with no problem. All they see is that other dealers don't have reports written about their tables, and I have one every couple of months. What's my incentive to continue? I'd get along better with everybody if I just stopped giving a ****.
So anyway, that's why many dealers don't enforce these rules.