I think my attitude has prevented me from reaching my poker potential. What kind of attitude helps you last in the game? And how do you change your attitude? My attitude currently consists of severe negativity and self doubt and negative thinking in general. I feel so much anxiety and fearful thoughts when all in and that leads to me quitting sessions early. I notice the top players seem to all have this jovial attitude towards the game where they are just care free and joyful. I am trying to become like that but right now im full of hate.

Being rolled or over rolled for a game will help with your attitude. That in addition to knowing you're a winner in the games you play will relieve you of any doubt or anxiety. Both of these things come with time and patience.

Poker is great because, in the end, you earn exactly what you deserve. Take comfort in that and accept it. That should allow you to enjoy the game for what it is.

self honesty, self awareness and good emotion control.

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Poker is so awesome IMO because--like in life--this may not be true. "The long run" can be longer than you're bankroll is deep, or longer than your mental endurance will allow.

I think eliminating the notion of "deserving" anything is the first step to mentally healthy poker.

I have blown through more 50 dollar deposits than i care to think. Lately its been at the roulette table after mass tabling for 90 minutes i just lose my sanity for a few seconds and even if i win during the session i hit the roulette table and if i win at that i keep going till busto. So definitely some gambling addiction going on here. I want to deposit another 50 and grind from 2nl till i get to a level where i can make a living at this game. I always thought because I had some skill at this game I would be able to make a living at it. But I have come to found it takes more than poker skill to win. Theres a mental game side of this as well.

Which I find myself doing poorly at. I get angry frustrated tired so easily when playing poker. Which sounds like myself away from the table as well. This just seems to be the way I was born, my normal temperament. Which sucks. I am still determined to make it in poker despite my struggles. I see the light at the end of the tunnel and imagine the lifestyle i will have if i can overcome my mental deficits and find a way to succeed and live my dream.

I'm not one of those happy all the time people so poker is a little more difficult for me but hopefully the next time i deposit i can finally grind my way up from 2nl to small-mid stakes. If i can get to 100 nl in a year and grind that for a living i'd be very happy with myself thats my goal.

Nothing you have posted suggests you are capable of playing 100nl profitably.

Your goal should be to grind from 2nl to 5nl. Then from 5nl to 10nl. And so on.

How about determined (including disciplined, resilient, studious, ambitious) and positive? For starters anyway.

And detached needs to work its way in there somewhere. Successful people in any game are not threatened metaphysically by defeat or the prospect of defeat.

Yeah I've never been much of a grinder. So you are right grinding from 2nl to 5 nl is the correct goal for me.

It took a little while to break the scary prospect of losing money for me, but as what usually happens to poker players, my affinity for money and its' value got shattered along with my fear of losing. Which is part of being a winning player imo. Look into meditation/exercise/yoga- it can change your attitude and calm your mind. Give it a shot and watch the benefits translate into your game! GL

Try to approach life in a way that isn't selfish. Try to do good for others. If you're content with the things you've done, and understand, in poker, that negative outcomes occur to everyone you should be able to start progressing to a point where you don't hate others for the negative things that happen to you because you understand they happen to everyone.

I also suggest you use the responsible gaming feature that allows you to limit the stakes and games available if you're playing on Stars.

Very good, I would just add vulnerability. I think that for many people it's difficult for them to acknowledge that there are things they could be doing better. And being vulnerable enough to openly admit that there are people better than you that can help.

yeah good point, but I believe that self honesty and self awareness have elements of vulnerability within them.

Self-awareness is very important in all areas of life, but in my (professional and personal) experience, people are terrible at it.

Worse still, the poorer they are, the better they perceive themselves to be. Anytime you ask anyone how self-aware they are, most people seem to think they are "very" self-aware. It's a very solid example of Dunning–Kruger in practice.

I don't think there's any secrets in what bring upon success in anything we do, whether in poker, or life. It takes hard work. I find it amazing how much better I am now, than I used to be only after 10 months of studying and taking lessons and working on my mental game. I can only imagine how much better I would have been if I did that from the beginning. Positive attitude, good work ethic and many other things help people enjoy success in life and in poker. Some do one thing, while others do another, find whatever works for you. Example for me it's studying and watching videos that helps my game the most. I have a hard time managing my bankroll and I know that's my biggest leak, so I am working hard on that now. As someone mentioned about the responsible gaming. I limited my Sit n Go buy in's and I excluded myself from playing cash as I've only worked on my MTT game over the last year.

Find what works for you and take it from there. It's not easy and there's a lot of trial and error in succeeding in poker, but that's how we learn is from our mistakes. I'm constantly trying to learn at what I can do better in poker and even writing this out has helped me realize a few things..so thanks! And GL