Hi I really want to clean up my act.

I am strong willed and do great without my ex
But basically I let my ex stay and it is constant wanting what is bad for her and family.

Let stay weekend and just sort of went longer
As am out of work at moment as she unable to look after kids on own

Basically I sometimes give on to her constant wants which sets me and kids back money and sane wise

She never cleans ,cooks, or does anything positive for kids
Today she lies about money as she owned all out

When not here so much easier just me and kids

Sounds easy like just kid her out , but always give 2nd chance

She never answers back or moans so makes me feel **** when shout

Basically looking for others view on it as I know advice my freinds give is dump her, no love for her but feel guilty putting on street..

Sounds like you're the adult and she is the child. If so, then be the adult and set rules and limits.

Of course, if you're still having sex, that goes out the window.

You are being an enabler. She does these things because she knows you will cave in and let her back. Move on buddy

When she ask for sex it's like getting kicked in the balls

I just find her inhuman as she got kids taken of her and I got full custody

She never ever cleans unless I ask, I try and not let my bad feelings show round kids as that is bad for them

Inhuman wrong but she never showed me anything in 15 years for her kids

What am goin to do is worry about kids and myself
And let her do what she wants to much bs wanting or thinking she might change

No angel myself but all would take is small things done right
And effort made for me to like her again
Any thing even tiny changes make it better.

I think you need to tell her your expectations and if she can't meet them then you need to let her go.