Hello OP - I've got quite a lot of experience in mental health and self-destructive behaviour in one form or another is pretty common - what you seem to be doing is not especially rare, though by no means easy to understand - really the best way to understand it is taking to a professional
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Originally Posted by Hugh Mungus
Also I am seeing a therapist but not much to find there.
this worries me - if your therapist is not able to help you shed light on the problem then probably they are either not very good or you may not be giving them a proper chance - are there any ways in which you might be sabotaging your therapy? - might discussing this on 2+2 rather than with him /her be one way of doing this.
Honestly this is not impossible to overcome but you have to really want to - - there is something quite addictive about thinking how life might have been or might be. maybe chewing this over on 2+2 is not really trying to solve the problem
Sorry if this is harsh GL in trying to solve your problem