imo

sorry for trolling a bit.
but you really can't be helped. or at least not by other persons.

Can you define what "man up" means and how it can be applied to this situation?

Well, first of all it'd be a good idea to lose the mindset.
This mindset is for losers and bitches.
You're feeling sorry for yourself, and feeling sorry for oneself never helped anybody.

Second, If this is your motivation for wanting a lot of money. You're leveling yourself, or this thread.
You want money for the sake of having it? That sounds like some spoiled rich child.
No but really, if this is your motivation for having a lot of money you don't care as much about money as you might think.
' I only care about money vs When I have a lot of money I give a lot away' doesn't compute

That being said, I think you're either overthinking this subject, or you're an attention whore.


Also, I highly doubt that you've had professional help and got turned your back upon by them.
You don't strike me as the person who would trip over the same stone twice. So why after your first bad experience, would you visit another therapist?
Not to mention that it's hard to imagine, that a professional will turn you down because he doesn't understand the problem or can't solve it.
& if you're so low on money, where did you find the money to go see a therapist (twice)?

So to get back to your question with 'what do you mean with man up".
Is to stop whining about everything, and get your priorities straight.
What do you want?
You want money? Then go and get it!
Go look for better jobs, go and improve your game. There won't be a magic answer here, in the end you have to do it yourself.

Nothing in life is free, so feeling sorry yourself isn't gonna get you anywhere.

I would say I'm a realist, I mean I could lie if you want me to?

I want a lot money so I can do extraordinary things with it, I dont think thats hard to grasp. The alternative is to have little money and read a book or take a long walk.
I might be overthinking it.

On the occasions when I seen a therapist/psychologist they were free. Again I went these people under the advice from my doctor. I'm sorry to hear that you can't imagine that a professional would turn me away because he didnt understand the problem or couldn't solve it, maybe he thought I should "man up" and that I didn't need help.

You mean to shut up and just take the crap other people hand out to me?, can you be more clear?

To be left alone and/or be rich.

Where is the nearest bank.............

There never is.

You are a level and a good one! You are likely qualified to be a very good grifter by your total line of deceit here on this thread. Get out there a take some peoples money from them. You were born with this talent! GL

Money,and i mean an amount that would suffice for the rest of your life without you lifting a finger and satisfying all your habbits and addictions equals hapiness for the most part.
Given that it's a poker forum let's say hapiness=money 75% & 25% other elements.Quite the formula ain't it?
Since this all could be a dream or a holographic projection(not a big fan of trusting my senses,they are too tricky) why not make the illusion as enjoyable as possible?Money is delivered with lots of friends,goods,love,undeserved respect,soft,gentle kisses in your ******* and all those things that makes your inner narcissist feel like in heaven.
If things go wrong you can always commit suicide,while crossing your fingers,that you don't wake up in an even worse nightmare that this one.

Have you ever had the amount of money you want so bad right now? My guess is that you don't. Why do you think it's going to make you happy? Looking at how you are thinking right now, do you think you will be satisfied when you become rich and are left alone? You may feel secure/safe for some time, but happy, I don't think so.

If your doctor sent you away, go try and see another and repeat till you get help. Your way of thinking is really biased, and you seem to know this yourself too. I think it isn't something you've been born with and you can be helped in a way for sure. For your own sake and that of the people who care about you, please decide to get real help.

Why did you make this thread in the first place? You are almost fighting back at all responses while there's a lot of good advice already given. You are trying so hard to validate the identity which you feel unsure of so that you don't have to change because, well.. yes change is scary. But inside you really want to change, or else you wouldn't have posted this thread in the first place, right? Again please decide to see a therapist. I'm no professional but I hope you will decide to keep trying until you really get some good help. Maybe it will take you a few months or even years to see some change. But which is harder? Living your whole life with the biased thoughts you're having now or doing your best for a relatively short time and get rid of those thoughts and just be happy with the great things you already have right now? You seem like you're suffering a lot now. You only can make this decision yourself so please do it, you deserve it. I wish you the best.

@Mr Muck McFold

you see what I meant.

I find it hard to respond as I feel everyone is bashing at me maybe cause I'm easy target.

I'm on my phone right now will post tomorrow.

What do you mean "Get out there a take some peoples money from them"?

I'm not sure how you come up with that conclusion that Money is delivered with lots of friends etc...

I cant make myself believe in God or that 2+2 =5, in the same way I cant bring myself to enjoy this illusion.

Yes I would be happy and satisfied if I was rich and left alone and there's only 1 way to find out.

I'm going back to doctors this week.

Not sure why I made this thread.

If you want money you need to work hard and earn it, who knows you might even have fun along the way.

It sounds like your lazy and have no motivation. Nothing is ever going to be Handed to you.

I'm looking into getting a second job at weekends as well as asking for overtime at my current full time Job.

I'm also looking into going to night classes but not sure what subject. I also go to gym often. I wouldn't say I'm lazy. I sometimes wish I had more time in the day to get all my work done. Point is I dont enjoy it I only do it because of peer pressure or the fact that I have bills to pay and I need to survive.

A typical day/thinking pattern for me would be like this;

Get up at 8am
Shower and shave
Get breakfast, porridge with fruit and soya milk
Dress and leave for work
25minute commute, hate traffic always slow
Get to work open up
Think about the jobs I have to do
Run around like a headless chicken
Go through the jobs and tick them off that I have completed.
Answer phone (first time i get to speak to a person and even that could be mid day)
Work by myself.
Send an doc. to my boss by email
Fix printer or computer
Go to site talk with builder and take photos of site.
Speak with structural engineer.
Change or update my drawings
Get a salad or sandwhich or soup.
Write out list of outstanding jobs that need looked at.
Go to gym after work 1hr workout
Go shopping for food
Get home
Pay bills online
Cook diner
Clean house
Take younger brother to work (sometimes)
Help friends who ask for money.
Get work clothes ready for next day.
Go to bed at 11.

I bumped into a guy I used to work for, he runs a pub and I used serve drink/waiter and I asked him if he had any part time jobs going at weekends and to give me a ring if there was.