For every relationship, there's always a possibility that there is someone more "perfect" for them.

But it's usually not worth the risk/time/money to find the absolute perfect person. People also change overtime, so you'll never know.

So it's quite possible you might be happier in a gay relationship. Maybe if I had absolutely no chance with women. I might turn gay. It's possible if I turn gay, I might be happier, but I'm not unhappy currently so I don't feel the need to try it.

so unhappy = no relationships

what about people in relationships who are unhappy?

can you honestly say that everyone who is not in a relationship is therefore not happy. is it not possible to be happy without being in a relationship.

maybe you should turn gay.

well i specifically chose the word relationships because I ment having friends as well.

If someone is not in a relationship, but has a lot of friends. They can be okay for a while. I'm not sure if that's sustainable long term though. Eventually all friends with be in relationships and married and have kids with less time to hang out with you.

And when I say relationships, I obviously mean good ones.

Turning gay is sort of a last resort kind of thing.

If you don't want short term flings, then look for a long term relationship. The searching process can be crazy yes. Just like finding the right job. But the end result is worth it.

You're looking at things too black and white or as single items. Happiness is a combination of the right things.

so if your not married and have kids you can never be happy?

You could especially if you date.

Could you be happy without dating? I highly doubt it unless you choose to be a monk or something.

Humans are social creatures.

I dont care what humans are, I care about me just because I am human doesnt mean that I have to be social, even to be happy.

According to you one must be in a serious relationship for long term happiness, there are 7 billion people in the world so you're telling me that out of those 7 billion people who are not in a serious relationship will never have long term happiness.

Sorry but I refuse to believe that, show me proof?

There are a lot of substitutes in life.

Could someone survive without sex? technically yes since there is masturbation. Now take that option off the table, can someone survive without sex and zero masturbation? Answer would now be No for most people. I'm sure there is a small % of people who excel so much in other areas of life that there isn't time to think about about sex. So for them, the answer is yes. Maybe they love their work, so they're so invested in that. Maybe they have a great social circle. Maybe they love rock climbing. whatever.

There are a lot of substitutions for relationships. Having friends is one substitute. Having pets is another. Having social interaction with people on website or video games, is another substitute. Having family who you interact with a lot is a substitute. Acquaintances are a substitutes.

One can survive on substitutes. Happiness is hard to measure. I would say most people aren't truly happy unless they're fulfilled in every aspect of their life. Including relationships which i classify as love and friends. A lot of people can "get" by. Their life can still be a 8.5/10. Just not a 10/10.

would it shock you if I told you that I am in a serious relationship for 4 years now and plan to get married next year?

Leave everything behind and go back packing in Asia or South America. Go away from your 'life' for a while.

Or go to this: www.shimbre.org

if you told me the relationship was wonderful, and you're not happy with it still. I would be shocked. I would question if it's really wonderful even though you say it is.

its like every other relationship i ever had..............its meh!

bottom line is i just want money, lots of it. thats that long and short of it. money would make me happy.

why is it so hard to get it?

Aah yeah. Now you got a big problem my friend. Cos you aint gonna be the next Warren Buffet in this economy. Or maybe you could. Try trading some of your savings in the stock market.

Money alone won't make you happy, but at least it's a goal.

Find out how you can increase you money.

Options are probably gonna be

1. work harder
2. find new job
3. take on additional job

If you succeed in increasing the money, I would wager you won't be happier unless it's a job that you happen to also enjoy more.

Which is no biggie. It'll be a lesson learned.

thats what i dont understand about people and maybe why i dont socialise with them because they never help me out with money, they just give lip service, but really they dont care.

i have no idea how to get more money and im looking for a part time job at weekends or after my main day job.