I no longer feel motivated by "goals" (I dont have any at the min.) I see them as a chore, another task to be completed. I literally have to force myself to do them. I cant even remember why I wanted those "goals" in the first place, they feel like a burden and I feel lousy even when I do them more than they inspire me. My problem is I find it very difficult to find a goal worth fighting for and I give in and give up to quickly if I dont enjoy what I'm doing. I usually give in to others because I dont want to fight which makes me a nice guy to be around but inside I feel alone and unwanted.

I have no ideas either about how to help myself.

My emotions are non-existent, due to thinking critically and picking reason over emotion. I pretend to be happy around others because thats what is expected of me, to be the strong man, and boys dont cry.

A man does not fear failure, does not make excuses, takes responsibility, a duty to become his best self, acknowledges his Limitations, even as he strives to overcome them, suppresses his emotions.

A man meets and surpasses the expections of others, it is this expection that makes me feel depressed.

The trick is to stop caring what others think. Just be happy being who you are.

I think it would help if people hit rock bottom. Like crying inside the church feeling God's hand touch your heart trying to stop yourself from sobbing kind of bottom. I went through being so hopless, depressed, wanting to kill myself cos my gf left and took our son with her, I had no money and no friends around. But I went through it and now I am truly fine. And nothing made me upset or depressed ever since.

I havnt hit rock bottom yet, I have a good job which I do well in even when I dont enjoy it. I pay my bills and I have house, I live by myself and can take care of myself and have no attachments to people. I have done everything that is expected of me to do, stepped up to be a man.

When I stop caring about what people think I turn into a dick and no wants to hangout with a guy like that, but if I go the other way and pretend to be "nice" I feel dead inside.

Nono. Thats not what I meant. By not caring, I mean it shouldnt affect you what they think and expect. Its kinda hard to explain. When I hit rock bottom and got out of it, I got a feeling like an incredible weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I had no money but I was motivated to find a way to make it. I applied for crappy jobs but that didnt bother me one bit cos I was really optimistic some good would come out of it.


Its like you're living in the 'now' and you're always in the zone.

Edit: and there is a God. But thats for you to truly find out for yourself. If you get it, you get it. If not, keep looking.

Or just drop it and dont look. **** it.

Try drinking a lot of coffee. It'll give you a lift.

Then go for a jog.

When you get home, read a book. You'll feel like you accomplished something.

I read "The Dice Man" its a good book.

I will try drinking a lot coffee later, maybe get some expensive quality stuff, like real Mexican Coffee Beans ****.

Going to gym after work like always.

Know any good books?

http://www.amazon.com/The-Game-Penet.../dp/0060554738

There's basically 3 things in life you need.

money/career
health
sex/relationships

You have 1 and 2. Not 3. Get 3.

I would suggest online dating if there isn't anyone in real life you're interested in. If you think only losers use online dating, nope. Get over that.

Not really interested in sex/relationship.

That's because you are clueless and only get fat chicks, because you buy chicks stuff and give, give, give, and get crap in return. And then you are disenfranchised. Well no shyt sherlock. Stop giving, start being selfish, and get some hot chicks that excite you.

Yeah it's like how poor people talk about how they don't care about money. Or how ugly people talk about how it's all about inner beauty.

If you're not having relationships with people and sex. Of course you're gonna say you're not interested. But once you get it, it gives your life meaning.

Just trust us, and get relationships/sex.

i retired myself from women after a dating a woman who should have been perrrrfect for me but just didnt have that spark
take a walk in the sunshine and thank the sun for your life, the green things, the water, be greatful you arent somailian
we have it way to good in this country
turn off your tv
trun off the radio
see what you think when its not someone elses lyrics in your brain
a great book is "Chronic city" by johnathan lethem
it speaks to the existensial crisis you are going thru
wait for the spark its worth it
it will come
unless your karma is to suffer
in which case...

I have been there and got the T-shirt with women so to speak. Serious relationships 3-4 years, short relationships just for sex, its not worth it IMO. It doesnt interest me it becomes a chore.

I could easily say,

If you're not having gay relationships with men and anal sex. Of course you're gonna say you're not interested. But once you get it, it gives your life meaning.

Just trust me, and get gay relationships/sex.

Doesnt make it true.