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Originally Posted by Brandonspade
The point is that my in-laws think poker=gambling. Which sort of true but in the long run the better player comes out ahead.
And while they think like this u should avoid any confrontation, its pointless to disuss with someone about a topic they dont know it as much as you.
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I have tried to explain to them about the calculations in poker, the reading of people, body language, pot odds, etc. and they just think poker leads to alcoholism, compulsive gambling, and debt.
At some level their right, but they´re just focusing on the bad side of thegame when themajority of the guys that practice poker and felt into those catagories dont apply the pricinples properly.
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Which for some players is true. I have never used personal money (money for bills, family stuff, etc.) to play. I have always maintained good bankroll management but they don't hear about or see this.
Nothing u can do there...Its like we say in Venezuela, sorry for the bad translation, but it goes something like this..."When someone has a hammer in their hands all they ever gonna see are nails".
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The reason they do not hear about this or see this is because it wouldn't matter. They have their own opinion about this and nothing I say or do will change this.
Until they changed their view about poker, its better to not get involved in a discussion, but what i would do its to sit them out and be very clear that u respect their opinions and the fact they disagree with you and/or have a "BAD" view/understanding about the game, but that you´re sick and tired of this ****, that u expect and DESERVE the same amount of respect from them, they are not more important than you, you deserve respect also, so i think you should demand it, i wouldnt be as cool as you if someone its trashing what i do for a living, what allow me to put food in my family´s mouth, dont care whom that might be.
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Originally Posted by Sdgullsfan84
This makes me LOL so hard because I deal with this every time I talk to my parents/grandparents. My immediate family has generally had a thing for gambling, and when I say gambling I mean pulling a lever and hoping for 7s across the board. I don't share that lust; poker has always been my thing. I have always had an edge psychologically and mathematically at the poker table. So when my dad, his girlfriend, and my grandparents caught on to me making money on the side from poker, they started to ask the very same ****ing questions you just brought up, and they do it in their little cutesy way.
Yeah i hear you man, i feel very relate to the point of this thread, its the same **** with me...And specially since in my country poker isnt that develop as in other places.
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I have always been a very argumentative type so I start to try to educate them. It's like my mission in life to get people to understand poker... but predictably they will have none of it. Worse, my Dad was a security guard at the Horseshoe back in the early 80s (where he met my wheel-of-fortune-spinning-mother and where I was born) and he never ceases to remind me that he has seen too many people go bust in the casino that I'm in denial, that I'm on the road to ruin etc. ROFL. Nevermind I'm gainfully employed and poker is a side hobby...
Hope this day never comes for me, but i feel your pain, i was one and employ as well.
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Anyways, if there is a point to my ramble, it's that I always give it back to them by arguing my case with gusto. I never let comments like that go by unchallenged. But I do it in a good natured way too, I would never respond with a smart-ass comment back to them or something. I know that they're ignorant in the end. ^_^
Good for you.
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Originally Posted by Popeye;29409848[B
]Funny thing is, if you were a stockbroker they would have no problem with it at all. [/B]
If poker is gambling (which to me it is, although one with a +EV when played well) then trading stocks is also gambling.
Maybe you should play poker in a suit with a tie, maybe that way they will respect you more, cuz for some people its all about appearance and what others might think of you.
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Originally Posted by Tiltmonkey2
Just don't take them serious. They are just being ignorant. When they say a remark just smile at them and move on.
I wouldnt do it, i deserve respect as well...I wont keep my mouth shut just because they are my in laws and they have a wrong view about what i do for a living, its like Popeye say, if i were a stockbroker they wont be as "ignorant" about it.
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Originally Posted by Dylanzesz
Instead of arguing with them, review their side of the story & analyze their point of view. It should be a lot easier dealing with people you don't agree with, when you know what motivates them. In other words, make them realize that you take good care of their daughter.
I agree with this 100%, if you´re not able to change their understanding about poker just let it be, but demand respect.
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A guy at my work believes that poker is all about luck. Rather then explaining him the concept of ev & variance, I just tell him that he's probably right. There's no gain for me, when I spend time trying to explain him that poker is a game of skill. Instead I kindly agree, and therefore he feels related to me.
Of course its always better not to try to change everyones mind about poker or the game will get a lot tougher in time
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Originally Posted by ChrisGil
Most people will never understand what poker really is or even that it's a game of skill. Even the "gamble" in this game is part of the skill as it takes a very intelligent person to realize that even certain plays where you lose are correct. Even most of the people who play this game don't see it as a game of skill. It's like craps and slots to them. It might be best to simply not talk to people about poker ever if you can avoid it. Most will never ever get it, even if you win.
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