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Originally Posted by Huskalator
I have major problems with these things. I meditate which helps but I'm terrible with keeping up with that.
I put up a barrier to everyone. It's already cause a lot of hurt to myself and my loved ones. One day it will destroy me.
How can I fix this? What are some resources that will help?
*Disclaimer* Im not a psychologist....
Things obviously anger you hence holding grudges, being petty. Whatever has happened to you, and the list of possible things can be huge, the most important thing is to let it go. You will
NOT be able to move forward if you are constantly looking backwards. If you dwell on the negative you will never see the positive and this will hinder you're relationships, progress, life, well being and happiness not to mention the least important you're poker. I know what im typing here will sound flaky to allot of people reading but ive been through it. Through my teens and 20's I was an angry person, held grudges, hated people, got into allot of trouble with the law, drugs, jail time and so on. Im 34 now and am married with 4 beautiful kids, I own 2 properties and work hard but ive come a very long way. It took me years to figure out what I was doing wrong and how it was affecting me and the people around me. Im constantly evolving and getting better at handling things but it has been a long and progressive road. I think the first thing you have to do is let go and realize that feeling/thinking in a negative way is harming you in more ways than one. Once you decide that you want to change you need to start thinking about the person you would like to be and how you're going to achieve this. And the main conclusion should be that first and foremost your attitude towards yourself and others need to change now. Be more positive be proactive, be happy, try new things, stay calm, exercise and have fun. Life is too short to throw it away and waste time with negative thoughts. My motto which i remind myself of daily is simple, 3 g's = good thoughts, good words and good deeds. 3 l's = love, laugh, and learn. It takes time but constantly living by these and implementing them will greatly improve you're outlook on life and improvement is sure to come. Have Patience. It
WILL come. If you do something that is out of line with 3 g's or 3 l's remind yourself and eventually you will rid yourself of allot of negative thoughts which will lead to self improvement. I went through it and it has helped me immensely. You cant rid yourself completely of being negative it creeps up in me too but i have reduced it greatly. Oh and by being less negative and more positive you're focus will increase because less energy will be expended on negative thoughts leaving more energy for other more positive things. Stay positive.
BTW I was thinking its kind of like making plays at the table, no matter what always try to make the most +EV play in life, sometimes you will encounter variance but eventually you're life graph will look amazing. Everything we do is based on decisions. Always make the best decisions and you cant lose over the long run.
cheers