Originally Posted by ftheuigea
I feel anxious when its on me. I don't think I'm taking the proper amount of time to do this. Think people are going to get mad if I take more then a few seconds for a decision. It's MY money. I need to get over this trait of worrying if I'm going to piss someone off or not.
I do it when I'm in conversations or general interactions as well.
I can't help but think that you probably don't have a lot of hours logged "at the table". Obviously it gets easier with time & experience.
In the mean time remember that you can take a little time on major decisions -even the best players in the world need time to think about complicated hands, and no one plays perfect poker. It may be as a simple as; A) because you feel some anxiety when the action is on you (just part of your personality as an individual) this is compounded when you've got a legitimate decision to make, B) you're being overly hard on yourself -which only adds more pressure and more anxiety, on somewhat minor mistakes...no one plays perefect poker. Give yourself a walk on the little mistakes...learn what you can, and then move onto the next hand.
Kindly keep in mind that its REALLY EASY to chat/post and talk about a certain hand over & over, for hours, days, sometimes weeks on this forum, having the liberty to beat a hand to death and get input from others and sleep on it makes it really seem simple......... versus when you're actually sitting at the table and have to make a timely choice.
Specific to making choices at the table, *stop* for a moment, ....this is YOUR TIME (as you said, your money),....you have the same equity in the game as all of the other players, you give them respect & courtesy when they're in a hand the same as they give you ....... ask yourself one or two simple but pointed questions; 1) why am I making/calling this bet -what does it accomplish, 2) whats my plan in the future, if the next player raises, or someone behind ck raises, do I have a good hand or good odds to draw out, ect. If you can not answer question 1 then obviously you're not going to be able to answer the more complicated question 2, so muck your hand and try again next time.
Nothing takes the place of experience. The more you play and the more times you find yourself in similar situations, w/ similar holdings, and you're facing a similar bet, similar position, similar stack sizes, ect.....its gets easier the more times you do it.
I noticed that you didn't mention anything about money, good. I'm glad to hear you're not being hard on yourself for losing some money, this tells me your focus is on playing better so its a good assumption that you're not playing higher than you can afford......this can cause great anxiety.