This was my main struggle and I'm pretty sure that's true.
I did some martial arts competitions (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vovinam
) some years ago. I remembered thanks to your post that because I felt so weak compared to the others, I was in extreme focus and it allowed me to win my matches.
Both need discipline to better yourself :
- You have to review your hands the way you would review your fights
- Even if a friend offers you a beer when you scheduled a training session, you have to go to your training
- You have to train often to get better, the more, the better
- You have to listen to yourself when your brains or body need rest
- You will look back in some months and see how incredible your journey is
It was really hard for me not to bet almost every turn, but it's the same in martial arts. You learned deadly moves and you learned that you should use them scarcely. To win matches, you need to mix-up your ways of attacking, defending, and the best fighters are always thinking out of the box.
Although, to think out of the box, you need to master the basics and to master your body first.
It's the same in Poker for me, you need to master the basic skills first
(pot odds, reading hands, getting to know your table, playing in position...) then, you would master your aggressivity
, would progressively try new moves, be imaginative in your defending and attacking patterns, etc.
I think you need first to master the basics, if you don't already, to finally be able to play with the flow, to understand it and put yourself into it. Then, there is no aggression, you are just an integral part of the game, you become an element of it. It's the same for me when I was in a competition, I got a grip of what the flow was, slipped into it and took advantage of it.
This is a concept called "Hyoho", invented by Miyamoto Musashi, the first japanese sword fighter to use two swords. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miyamoto_Musashi
You can find more about it in the book he wrote in his late days called : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Book_of_Five_Rings
I'm sure you can compare Poker to pretty much every sport where there is two spirits fighting against each other.