LC in OOT brings some memories.....
I was bullied in the school. Few guys did beat me-up on a regular basis. I told my parents, my parents told me to deal with it. I dealt by skipping the school. At the time it seemed the only possibility to escape the beatings. For about a month I wasn't going to school and then it came out. A teacher came to our house to ask what is going on and why I am not in the school. For my parents that was BIG SHOCK. I mean school was always the priority and alone the idea that I was just skipping it was just outside of realm of possibility for them. After some talking and crying my mom finally understood how bad it was. My mom took me by the hand and went directly to the house of the leading bully. Then in presence of his parents she told him that if that happens one more time, she will as first beat me half dead (my parents never even slapped on my butt), because I let it happen and then kill him. It sounds wild and it was wild and highly emotional for everyone involved, but it totally did the trick. Beatings stopped.
Was I responsible in some way for this bullying? Definitely yes. I was socially inept (still am
) focused on school and did annoy the crap out of my bullies. Did I deserve beatings? Nope. No one does. Did my mom handle the situation well? Yepp. That was exactly the message that was understood. Some of you will start: She should talked to the teacher, talked to the parents, how did his parents react to my mom threatening to kill his son....... BS. That was exactly the right message. His parents were rather grateful. Teachers were themselves afraid of this guy. She did hit exactly the right tone and the right words. Differently to me my mom is and always was socially very skilled.