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Originally Posted by DrVanNostrin
Good work all.
ILP should start match.com coaching, imo.
You know what's funny, I was actually giving 2+2er Madnak some advice in the SMP forum in the "Abuse of Sexual Power and Stalking" thread. I basically outlined to him my dating strategy. I know the same old rhetoric can be found somewhere in the old AP regs thread, but I'll click and paste my post anyways:
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Originally Posted by madnak
I've written over a hundred on Craigslist and AFF, the response rate has been abysmal. About 1 in 30, and not leading anywhere.
I agree that response rate is pretty bad and based on that rate alone I will assume that you are average to below average in looks like I am. The only tidbits of advice I have at this point are the strategies I employ myself. Since you seem to be in a similar predicament I will outline to you some ideas I've come up with:
First of all lets assume you want a "cute" girl. (I'll let you define cute anyway you want). One approach that can dramatically increase your chances of getting that cute girl is to look for pockets of inefficiencies in the dating market. Think about cute girls that are not getting their fair share of action/attention. In other words, think about cute girls that guys like Phil153 are less likely to go after. (I assume Phil's hot cuz he talks like a hot guy). For example:
1) Try going after cute girls who have kids. Most Phils will avoid this type of girl since they invariably have more choices.
2) Consider dating outside your race. (I'll assume you're white for sake of discussion) Most white Phils will end up dating white girls. Many non-white girls have strong fetishes for white guys. Thanks to the internet these girls are relatively easy to find. This means you get bonus points just for being white which is a huge plus for an average guy trying to get a cute girl.
3) This is a reiteration of the cougar bar principle. There are cute older women who have fetishes for young guys. Find them and take advantage of the bonus points you get just for being young. Again, the young phils will not bother with this market thus opening up an inefficiency for you to pounce on.
The list can conceivably be much larger than this but the principle is the same. For a below average guy to get an average to above average girl, his best chances are to find an inefficiency in the dating market and exploit it. My last three girlfriends were all Asian chicks who had a strong white guy fetish. This is no accident. They were all hotter than me and I'm certain that if they were white I wouldn't have had a chance with them. I have also dated women who were much older than me or had kids, both of whom were much hotter than me.
Here's one more trick I've perfected with online dating:
4) Write slender chicks with no pics. If a girl is 5'5" 115lbs, odds are she's gonna be cute, but if she has no pic, the Phils of this world are not gonna bother with her. So then you jump in being Mr. Non-Shallow guy who doesn't care about pics and once again you get bonus points just for that act!
There's pockets of inefficiency all over the place. I believe if you fully utilize these pockets, you'll increase your response rate significantly.